I don't want to drip feed so I'll try & be as succinct as possible.
Married, happy. 2 DC.
DH had his first bout of depression after the birth of DC 1. A kind of male PND we thought at the time. He's been on AD's for last ten years & been quite stable with the odd blip.
Just before Christmas he had a relapse, dark thoughts, irritable crying. Started CBT in Feb.
I've been doing my best for over 10years to support him, putting him first, not expecting him to help much due to his depression & he's easily stressed.
He manages to go to work, & do his hobby, but mentally it exhausts him.
We had aan argument last night when he asked me a hypothetical question about what we could do with a billion pounds- I said 'I'd have a hair & makeup artist like the Kardashians' he went mad- shouting 'How shallow can you get- it's like I don't know you, of all the things we could have, that's so selfish' I told him it's never going to happen so what's the point in arguing about this crap.
He apologised. I said never mind, & put it down to the irritability side effect of his medication.
Well, I think I've had enough now. I don't know why he thought it would be a good idea to tell me this morning that after our arguement he thought last night of putting a knife to my throat whilst we had sex & it didn't make him feel bad (like his dark thoughts usually do). Finishing with 'please don't be scared of me- it's the illness'
I'm trying to avoid him with housework, bath etc but I do not know what to do. Feel stuck & like a bad wife.
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DH has depression. Help.
VivienneEastwood · 30/04/2017 15:02
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