I wish I had some friends

[Rainbowsandunicorns88]

I'm so lonely and my life must appear totally sad. I'm only 29 ( look 12) but I have no girlfriends. I'd love to have someone to go for coffee with, put a facemask on and do our nails or damn even just someone to call or text. I'm painfully shy and worry that that makes me come across rude but I'm really not. I'm just an introvert desperate (pathetically) for a friend.

[YawningHippo]

We're the same age. And I often feel the same. I do have two friends but I'm totally different from both of them and I don't see them regularly. It is very lonely at times. I'm not shy exactly but can be quite socially awkward at times.

[failure7]

this struck a chord with me, I'm actively looking to establish some friendships myself so feel free to msg me. Good luck, you'll get there

[Rainbowsandunicorns88]

How old are you, failure? I'm sorry to hear others are lonely too; it's so miserable. I have two kids but feel that's all I am - a mum. I want to be 29 and have some fun.

[heavenlypink]

Much older than you and I'm the same. I go through phases when it really gets me down and then phases when I'm happy just doing my own thing. I'm definitely and introvert and have social anxiety issues too.

[WheresTheEvidence]

Hi.

This could have been me 6 months ago. Then after losing my job I was spurred on to make some new friends.

I went on meetup.com and found a meetup/social group near me. They did meals out/pub quizzes/drinks nights/board games nights etc. So I joined up and 6 months later. I have an active social life - I'm out 3 nights a week, I have a large group of people I go out with regularly (20-30 of us) but have made 8 really good friends who I whatsapp daily or meet up with for drinks/dinner 1on1 or within a smaller group.

This bank holiday would have been a different thing a year ago. But this year I went out Friday night to a beer festival, Saturday night for dinner then we met the rest of the guys after the fight this.morning I'm going to a fakers market and for a coffee with a friend then this afternoon I will go to the beer festival again and tomorrow I'm maybe going for a run with another. So busy I'll need a day off come Tuesday.

Try it. I'm not social I have anxiety but it's the best thing I did.

[Whirltime]

I have just gone 30. I feel kust like you constantly. The biggest issue i have is my 2 eldest dcs are sn so going out is such a issue. I dont have much time for anything as i spend all ny time running around from appointments and such.

[Rainbowsandunicorns88]

I have raging social anxiety and I don't drink which I find instantly alienates me as I'm always the one person not drinking which quickly spirals me into even more loneliness as everyone gets drunk and I just leave, no point me being there.

[WheresTheEvidence]

You don't have to drink. Find a walking group or a book group

[Postagestamppat]

I feel the same. We moved abroad and now I have work colleagues and the very occasional playdate. I did the 16 personalities test and it turns out that my personality group comprises 1% of the population and I need to feel extremely compatible before I can bond with someone. Great! Explains alot! In the olden days I just used to go down the pub, get a bit pissed and meet people that way. can't do that now. From time to time I go along to meetup.com things. I hope things work out for you.

[Want2beme]

There's a lot of us out here. Any meetup groups are so far away from me, that it's not practical for me to join up. The small town I live in doesn't seem to have much happening in the form of groups, so it's frustrating thinking that I'll never make friends. I think I'll have to move, which is something that I'm considering doing anyway. Hope things pick up for you OP.

[DrSeuss]

I live in Teesside and would be happy to be the friend of a fellow Mumsnetter.

[Lauraw1989]

I'm 27 and haven't had any friends since I was 18/19. I go out with DP's and his mates and they have wives/girlfriends but I wish I had my own girlfriends like to meet for coffees, go out for meals, have a night out on the town with.

I know I'm likeable because all the ladies at work talk to me and tell me I'm a lovely person.

I'm 20 weeks pregnant and I hope motherhood will bring new friends into my life.

I used to cry myself to sleep about it when I was younger but now I have realised I have two lifelong best friends in my life my Mum and DP and that's all I need to make me

[noego]

To boost self confidence perhaps join an AM DRAM group. There is nothing like getting up on stage to boost self confidence. Take it slowly. It has helped many a public speaker.

[Lauraw1989]

I also suffer from social anxiety OP. I used to think drink boosted my confidence in social situations but since getting PG I have noticed I actually have more confidence.

Ahhhh I hate talking to really drunk people who talk to you all night long and make you feel like you could be mates and then once they sober up they don't want to know you

[Rainbowsandunicorns88]

I'm more than willing to make friends I'm just crap at it!! I'm in SW London

[VelvetB]

I'm in exactly the same boat - moved areas 2 years ago, and after having a baby and going back to work full time find it really difficult to meet new friends. I've got a fab DP and two lovely boys but would be so nice to have some girly friends! I'm also quite introverted and also feel I need to click with people.

But you've spurred me on to try meet ups or something similar :-)

[YawningHippo]

I'm in the SE. As I've got older, I've changed my outlook. I'd just love to have like minded people in my life, who cause no drama and that I can chat to and be there for. I never really hit it off with anyone from my baby group with my children so no close friendships there. I do wonder what's wrong with me sometimes.

[yetmorecrap]

I have started doing stuff again just in case I end up on my own, we have a large meet up network here and luckily I can talk the hind leg off a donkey even with people I don't know,

[MrsTWH]

I'm in the SE as well and would love to make some new friends!

It is harder, I think, to make new friends as you get older. I've moved to a town where everyone seems to still hang out with their old school friends and live in the same areas!

[beachcomber243]

Much older here too. I have virtually no one now. Social anxiety, plus some bad experiences in group/clubclique situations means I am isolated.

I just do things on my own, happy enough but miss a mate to have a chat to, go for a walk with etc.

[notthe1Parrot]

You could try the U3A (just google!). They have groups all over the country and beyond. Everything from table tennis to book groups, walking, theatre, singing, social groups etc. There are 90 different groups in our area. Although many members are older/retired, there is no lower age limit - there are people from age 30 upwards in a group I'm involved in.

[alicemalice]

Meetup.com is good Also Spice and Citysocializer.

[summertimesmiles]

DrSeuss I'm in Teesside too!!

[summertimesmiles]

@DrSeuss