Apologies if this is a slightly clumsy thread. Having recently come out of a lt relationship (still not ready to date) I've noticed that while watching reality TV the approach to kissing etc seems much more aggressive than I've been used to (washing machine comes to mind). Can any current daters set my mind at ease? Seems like all the rules have changed, including a simple kiss!
I'm not sure there are rules, and I certainly don't tolerate the "tongue like a wet towel in a washing machine" technique. I'll stop and tell them how I like it (a slower build-up, no tongues at first, explain how lips are a far bigger erogenous zone than my tongue, and tongue to be introduced only once things have warmed up a bit) and hope they tone it down. Can't stand snogging someone who has a completely different style to me.
I always find kissing scenes, especially in soaps really awkward too watch. It's like they'd rather be kissing a dogs arse.
I suppose it's down to you how you like to be kissed, You normally follow your partner's rhythm if that makes sense. Normally signs are given, just don't go in like you're about too have a tongue wrestle and it should go well
Fleeting, promising even, exploring....., then bolder, then withdrawing, then fleeting.....again. Then promising.
You can write it how you like.
It's called mating and it should be a beautiful, personal experience.
Sometimes all that is required is a kiss on a beautiful cheek at the end of a fulfilling day. In the sunset. An unspoken promise, to do this again because it feels so good.
To meet again tomorrow, to take it further. That's enough to have every man and woman cartwheeling on the grass.
To touch their cheek, as your tongue is dancing with theirs, to invade and withdraw together, feeling that same sensation, feeling that....enclosure. Like a cage, your mouths locked together, in bliss. And it rises, wanton, desperate, to lock into them to impart all that you have. Heart, mind, soul, your breathe. Your oxygen. Your could happily die there.
You don't. You die in other ways.
Looking into their eyes, knowing that a kiss brings you closest to them.