ladies is it possible that you hit a buffer at some point in your marriage and just think ... weve had our best days its all pretty mundane and disappointing from here on in? Just hear me out a bit. Ive always had a rocky relationship with my H i feel because hes someone who is really into himself. So where i want to do regular family stuff hes always off on his pc, resting or doing other things. So for me ive always felt this void. Its always led to rows, Weve talked about this and he works hard and needs his time to do his thing. But recently ive been thinking that if this is IT ... jeez ... i just dont feel satisfied. The lack of empathy about my feelings in general over him meeting his own needs first. Incidentally he will always bang on about who pays all the bills, of which he pays the majority, but ive been dealing with this for almost 10 years now. When our kids were very small i felt like a single parent. And he would always say oh im working for our future blah, blah, blah. So you think positively and think yes we have to make sacrifices ... but recently ive got to thinking about what memories weve been making and its all doom and gloom arguments etc. All the photos i have he is not in them because he wasnt there! Without wanting to sound like im bleating but i feel like ive had a light bulb moment, without wanting to sound completely duh! I just dont see him changing in any way, shape or form. Anyone else feeling the same way?
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