I had my son two months ago. So for nearly the last year, I've been pregnant, breastfed and am always holding the baby. My body hasn't been my own (not really the issue as I adore my little boy). I breastfed for the first 5 weeks but he's now on formula and of course I have to carry him everywhere as he can't walk yet! As much as I love him, when DP has him I like that I can just have my body to myself for little while. I'm talking just sprawling out on the settee while we watch TV or have a bath.
Since he's been born, aside from the Baby, I hate being touched. DP asks me to cuddle up with him on the settee but honestly,I like just lying there without being touched. We've had sex once since our son was born two months ago.
I should emphasise that DP is wonderful, hasn't pressured me in any way and generally a great partner/dad. This is about me. I just can't bear any physical contact when someone else is holding the baby as I think I'm all 'touched out'. DP sometimes comes and puts his arms around me or strokes my leg or wants a cuddle on the settee but I'm actively avoiding it. I just want my body to myself for short periods.
The baby is slowly starting to go down in his crib/bouncer for short periods so I'm hoping it'll improve with time. He had tons of trapped wind in the first few weeks and liked just being walked around (He'd scream if you sat down!) so I spent most of the time dealing with that. When DP even touches my leg or something,i just get irritated and bat his hand away. When I'm not holding the baby, i just want to 'be' without any physical contact from anyone.
Is this normal? I haven't spoken about it to him yet, but I'm worried it's going to start affecting our relationship.
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Hate being touched since having a baby
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crazypenguinlady · 28/04/2017 09:11
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