So I left OH after years of basically being a single mum but to the outside world being in a relationship - we had no sex for years, no anything and he was emotionally abusive to me.
I joined a gym at the start of this year and got friendly with a personal trainer who I hired to train me. I thought he was good looking but have been focused on working on myself so didn't even think of anything progressing. The gym has been my escape from my separation and being a mum so i've never talked about the separaton or being a mum with him - usually just work and random banter.
Thing is i'm pretty sure he's interested in me now, texts me all the time and always asking to see me (not for training), and he's just been a lovely guy.
I just feel mortified now and also a bit embarrassed that I never brought up the kids thing. I have changed my whatsapp to photos of me and the boys but he's never asked. I just don't know how to drop it into a conversation now - and I'm also scared to as I'm pretty sure a hot single guy like him will be in shock and drop me once he knows that. I know that means he's not right for me if so, but I guess I'm just mourning something that may never be the case anyway.
I hadn't really considered dating again, but it's just so different now when you have to tell someone that you have not only one but two kids.
Anyone had any luck with dating a guy who doesn't have kids when you have them? I think I may have to tell him via whatsapp, as the idea of seeing his face and shock when he knows is just something i don't want to see.
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namechangedforthis12 · 27/04/2017 15:55
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