i don't really know where to start really i've never posted anything like this and being so personal with peoples feels a bit strange lol...
but i should probably start off with a bit of backstory. i'm in my early 20s i suffer with very bad social anxiety i've never really had a relationship because of my social awkwardness so i'm completely inept when it comes to anything about relationships and i have no one to really talk about this kinda stuff with in this regard you could say i'm quite immature as by now most people my age have had a few relationships while i still find the whole thing cringe worthingly embarrassing to talk about like a teenager would.... my face is bright red as i type this
me and my friend have known each other about 5 or 6 years but never really became close friends until 2 years ago he is 20 years older than me he's never been married has no children he actually has no family at all since his mother passed away a few years ago and well i just adore him he's the most loveliest person you could ever meet i didn't think people like him existed he's just so kind he never complains he never says anything bad about anyone he always tries to help people (his job involves helping people) and he volunteers every week at the redcross to cook meals for homeless people just generally a really good guy
we've become increasingly close over the past 2 years i know some people find it strange that we are friends because of the age difference and i think a lot of peoples first response is that he's an older man taking advantage and just being nice to get one thing. but it really isn't like that at all its been purely platonic he's never once made me feel uncomfortable you could almost say he's been kinda like a father figure or uncle towards me....and well that's kind of the problem for about a year now i've liked him more than a friend but i'm pretty positve he doesn't feel the same way i don't think he has any interest in dating someone younger than him and he sees me like a niece he'll often joke and put "from Uncle Dave" at the bottom of texts and things < not his real name
hes so sweet and affectionate towards me and part of me doesn't mind it staying like this but overall i'ed like more we have so much common and get on so well it all most seems a shame not to at least see if it could be something more i know if i told him how i felt he'ed let me down gently and wouldn't let it ruin our friendship.....its more how i'ed react that i worry about i'ed probably feel so embarrassed that i'ed never speak to him again and cry for weeks lol
so should i just stay quiet and carry on as things are? or should i tell him how i feel and if so what do you think is the best way to go about it?
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