Rant alert...
Not sure what I hope to get out of this, maybe some commiseration / encouragement (?) most of all need to get this off my chest.
I'm a bit disillusioned at the moment with the state of my relationship. When I got with my hubby he came across like a brilliant guy in terms of being caring, empathetic, loving. I believed he'd be a perfect dad (one of the reasons why I felt confident about trying for a child with him.)
Now I find myself with this person who is not only happy to watch me do everything around the child, including all the night shifts, feedings, nappy changes etc without ever showing much empathy (for instance, if the roles were reversed I would have immediately taken the child off him after a day at work, seeing his tired face with under eye bags and knowing how hard it can be, but not my partner) but also does not seem interested in me in a romantic capacity. He just goes into his own shell after work, never suggests we go out for a date, doesn't approach me for sex (oh how I wish I was one of these women who have their men pinning for sex but turn them down), even my birthday card a couple of months ago (he used to always write me some really romantic things) was just all about me being a mom etc. Like that is literally the only thing I am now - a full time carer to his baby :-/ Oh and btw my present was a fancy "contactless" baby thermometer... I did want one but not necessarily for my bday and it was a milestone one as well :-///
I realise I've gained a bit of weight while pregnant however now I'm almost back to my pre-pregnancy weight (8 pounds to go) and try to take care of myself as much a possible considering I have a 6 month old to take care of. Anyway aren't men supposed to be so sex obsessed that they don't even 100% care how you look or feel like as long as they get some? We do occasionally have sex but it's out of my initiative and to be honest I've been thinking whether he's just doing it out of obligation rather than genuine desire.
I did think maybe he was cheating but I just don't see when and how he'd do that. He's always home like a quarter after five, we spend all weekends together. He is physically present but not mentally and intimately.
When browsing the net everything is about men feeling rejected by their partners, it happens to women to!
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Feel neglected by DH after baby
shewhocannotbenamed · 25/04/2017 15:44
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