I am trying to make sense of what's deemed reasonable and what isn't.
I have never met my new in-laws, who live on the other side of the globe, and they are coming over to England in few week's time. During their time here, they will be staying with us for a week, after which they are going spend a couple of weeks with DH's children and DH's ex-wife. That's all well and good, and great for the children as the youngest one has never even met his grandparents.
However (and this is when I really feel that I am simply not cut out for the reality of the modern family set up), when they go over to where the children live, DH will be taking them but I haven't been invited to go along. So in my mind, we are back to the 'playing happy families', where there's no place for me.
Funny though that when I once mentioned meeting up for lunch with my ex-in-laws as DS and I were considering a trip to near where they live (DS sees them at least twice a year; they live abroad too but in Europe), DH was fuming. I don't understand then why I have to always be so understanding about everyone's needs etc. I can't make sense of how I fit into all of this, what my place is or whether I even have a place in the grander scheme of things! Or does it mean in situations such as this one, I will always have to make way for the children's mother as her role is simply so much more important than that of the little new wife??
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The in-laws, the ex-wife and me
Appleandbanana123 · 24/04/2017 23:03
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