It's taken me YEARS to finally end things with my OH. He's emotionally abusive and whilst we've had some good days together, it's mainly been bad and got to a point recently where I finally had the strength to end things.
We rent together, OH pays as I've been a SAHM who now runs my own business (successful but doesn't make enough to cover rent.) We aren't married, thank God, so you think it'd be easier to make a clean break.
OH moved out for about 5 days and then said he wanted to come back to see the kids - who he has never made effort with before. He has now been using that line every day of the week, and coming back after work here and taking the kids out and keeping them up late and being a Disney dad when he's never spent any time with them before. They obviously love it so I have been allowing it, but it's not doing me any good.
I'm in such a bad place mentally now that it's affecting my sleep, i'm awake all night and have headaches constantly. I feel so disrespected and as though he's just completely ignored the fact I've broken up with him. I just don't think he takes me seriously or respects how I feel enough, and thinks if he stays long enough under the same roof I'll give in. Not only that but last night he went through my phone and I've just woken up to see he's also gone through my laptop, which makes me feel sick.
For those who have left relationships like this, what are my next steps? Or any advice on getting him to take me seriously when financially he is in control? I need to see if I can get any help with rent otherwise me and my little ones will be homeless (we have no family nearby to help). But I can't put up with this any longer, i'm feeling so low.
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namechangedforthis12 · 24/04/2017 10:34
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