Please I do not need criticism. I need advice. We are both married, currently I have a month old, the other person has 2 kids. I have been in a rocky marriage for a while now, been married for 5 years. they have been with there partner for 10. Recently we had seen each other in passing, then started talking when we had time. Now it seems we cannot get enough of each other. We both agree it is wrong, and have not acted upon any feelings, have not even talked dirty to each other. Just very flirty. Neither of us can get each other out of our heads. when one is gone from work we are sad, we actually miss each other. I am not sure what to do from here, is it just because my relationship is rocky? btw I would not change my child for the world, they mean everything to me. We have so much in common. if possible we could just talk to each other all night! Help me I am lost.
You have a teeny baby and so your world has turned upside down. A crush sounds like a symptom of 'Oh my GOD!! What has happened to my life??!!!' and is possibly a way of you projecting back to when you were 'free'.
In other words- your responsibility right now is to concentrate on your baby, your partner and your family unit. Nothing else is really real right now and nor does anything else matter. You certainly should not be putting a nuclear bomb into the middle of your life.
I think you need to set aside your feelings for the new person for now. This is a wake-up call about the state of your marriage. As you have a very young child, you need to take their needs into consideration.
Without more info about your 'rocky marriage' (why did you choose to have a child, or did the problems rear their heads with the pregnancy?) it is not possible to advise what should happen next. If you are being abused, then separation may be in order. But rushing headlong into a new relationship would be deeply irresponsible.
Sort out your current relationship situation first, would be my advice. Stability for your child, whether you stay or leave should be your priority, not this newly emerging limerance.
stop now. It did eventually turn out ok for me but it was the most painful experience ( 5 yrs of hell) and i will never get that time back , I cannot even begin to tell you what a storm you are heading into. Go cold turkey ..it is the only way, one step further and you will be in so deep so quickly and you just do not realise until it is too late,
I think you should leave your relation and have a go with this person because you only have one life and clearly you're unhappy with your current partner as otherwise you wouldnt be feeling this.
Whether things work out or not with the other person you know your relation isnt doing well anyway and you're best to end it because your partner deserves someone who will love them and you deserve to live your life.
Staying in the relation - unless you do some serious counselling work, which may or not rescue the relation - i fear will only make you feel resentful and unhappy and kids really notice that and would rather be with separate but happy parents than unhappy parents staying for the sake of it.
Also op there is never a good time to end this. It will always be hard. If you end things in a civil and respectful way before actually cheating you can arrange to see the kids and support each other in parenting but nothing more. It won't be easy but that's the nature of separation when you have children.
Are you putting any effort into your relationship with your partner? The poor woman gave birth to your child 4 weeks ago and you're having an emotional affair with someone at work. You obviously have no respect for your partner
Well aren't you a fucking prize? She grew an actual person & gave birth just 4 weeks ago, you don't want criticism? Tough fucking shit fuckwit, you are a pathetic excuse for a human being. I think you should leave your partner, for her sake as she deserves far, far better than you.