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I've dodged a bullet, right?

(58 Posts)
roarityroar Fri 21-Apr-17 19:58:37

Went on two dates with man. V attractive, intelligent, similar interests. Teetotal because of former addiction issues, which I'm not, but ok.

Second date nice. He's funny. But he starts interrogating me. Asks me if I know of the Hare test (psychopath test) and quizzes me on my level of sociopathy. Otherwise fun. I agreed I might be about later tonight. Might.

Today comes. He calls. Messes around with times but that's fine, I'm laid back. I say look, tonight was never really great, can we rain check? He starts going mental over text. Leaves me a VM explaining the conversations we had in minute detail and why my actions are "not his standard".

I obviously say ok, that's how you feel. Them get a barrage about how yes I am indeed a psychopath and that's "gold dust" (he means hilariously funny).

Bullet dodged right? I had a weird feeling and actually, I'm glad and won't see him again.

Justmadeperfectflapjacks Fri 21-Apr-17 20:01:33

Def be grateful you escaped unharmed. . .

helpmesusan Fri 21-Apr-17 20:02:14


Polarbearflavour Fri 21-Apr-17 20:02:35

Sounds like a weirdo - you had a lucky escape!

thatorchidmoment Fri 21-Apr-17 20:04:00

Oh yes you did. How bizarre with the psychopathy chat. Definitely not light second-date conversation!

Enjoy your weirdness-free Friday!

Plenty more fish, and all that.


toffeeboffin Fri 21-Apr-17 20:09:24

I'd say so.

AmberLin Fri 21-Apr-17 20:10:10

Wow! He doesn't know your address does he?

roarityroar Fri 21-Apr-17 20:12:05

He doesn't.

We met on online dating last year and he was a weirdo then. I then met him recently on a different site. Didn't realise it was him. He did. He seemed nicer this time.

Now he's bombarding me with horrid messages.

Reow Fri 21-Apr-17 20:14:01

Oh my god. Bye!

Bet you haven't heard the last of him.

Reow Fri 21-Apr-17 20:14:26

Which OLD site?

bingolittle Fri 21-Apr-17 20:18:40

Never mind bullet - you dodged a whole surface-to-air missile there...

AmberLin Fri 21-Apr-17 20:20:30

Keep a low profile OP. I don't want to scare you. But all that psychopath/sociopath talk worries me. Does he have anyway of finding out your address, does he know your last name, post code for example? Call the police if you need to.

roarityroar Fri 21-Apr-17 20:21:08


I had a niggly worry. Our guts are good for more than just nurturing healthy bacteria!

AmberLin Fri 21-Apr-17 20:21:47

Do you think he purposely targeted you when he recognised you from previous site?

PoorYorick Fri 21-Apr-17 20:22:50

Bullet? You dodged a full blazing cannonball. Put him out of your mind, delete and block and get on with finding someone who's not actually utterly batshit fucking loony.

roarityroar Fri 21-Apr-17 20:32:56

He told me he had because he realised it hadn't gone well before.

I was thinking about going to his tonight. This is a wake up call.

roarityroar Fri 21-Apr-17 20:35:52

He is also very pro life and shouted at me when I said I was pro choice and had once had a termination.

Many bullets.

PoorYorick Fri 21-Apr-17 20:37:29

Bloody HELL, OP. You've dodged so many different kinds of artillery it's a wonder you're still here. Delete, block, shudder and move on.

MyGastIsFlabbered Fri 21-Apr-17 20:48:46

Being 'gold dust' doesn't mean being funny I don't think <misses point of thread>

I'd block and move on.

roarityroar Fri 21-Apr-17 20:50:47

Yes Yorick!!

By gold dust he means I'm such a mess of a person it's hilarious. Hard to explain.

The apologies and the barrage about how hard his childhood was has started...

Holy hell. Cruise midsole.

roarityroar Fri 21-Apr-17 20:50:52


PoorYorick Fri 21-Apr-17 20:54:22




TheNaze73 Fri 21-Apr-17 21:05:21


roarityroar Fri 21-Apr-17 21:09:36

He's going to get therapy and call me after.

Well that escalated.


PoorYorick Fri 21-Apr-17 21:10:50




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