I've been spending a bit of time recently having (so far very successful) counselling about various things, including stuff to do with my childhood and the way I interact with people now.
My father died about 8 years ago and his death devastated my mum, now in her late 80s. Despite the fact he was difficult for most of their married life, and was pretty emotionally abusive, with a drink problem to boot, she adored him and continues to do so.
When I visit her and on daily phone calls she speaks fondly of him and makes a big deal about how much he loved me, how proud he was etc. All bullshit as far as I'm concerned: he was creepy, moody and aggressive and I hated him.
My dilemma: having been away for a couple of weeks and not having the daily conversation, I've ruminated on whether to explain how I feel and felt. On the one hand, I'm protecting her from hearing bad things about her DH: on the other, I'm lying at least by omission every time we speak and it's really bugging me.
So: tell or not? WWYD?
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Bit of a WWYD: tell elderly mum how I really felt about my father, or leave it?
tigerdriverII · 21/04/2017 11:28
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