Hi there. Just looking for a bit of advice really. Hubs and I have 2 young children. I recently went back to work full time after being part time for a while after being on maternity leave. I have a professional job and am at the top of my earning potential, which is approx £33k per annum, which I don't think is too bad. He earns quite a bit more than me and is quite ambitious in comparison to me. He comes from a family of academics whereas I was the second person in my family to go to uni and I didn't have a lot of expectation put on me when I grew up. Don't get me wrong, professional development is on my agenda but not right now. I feel pretty exhausted a lot of the time from work/home life. I do a majority of the house work. He's a great dad and does the gardening and walks the dog but I do disproportionately more of the domestic chores. Just lately he's been telling me I should have a long term career goal, that I should do a masters degree (which I've repeatedly suggested I do over the years at some point). He isn't saying these things in a supportive way; his manner is more condescending tbh. When I tell him that it's on my agenda but not right now he says I'm being defensive and should stop putting stuff off, that I repeatedly talk about changing my career but never do anything about it. The convo becomes tense and he then says he expects me at least to be contributing more financially. I've taken 2 lots of maternity leave for our children; relocated to another city to be closer to his elderly parent that we care for (another dimension to our relationship which adds to the pressure on us). This has all impacted on my career progression whilst he has remained in the same job throughout.
I feel really pee'd off. Any thoughts?
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Husband Complaining I Don't Earn Enough
Greedynan · 19/04/2017 22:27
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