exdp left me couple of months ago, he elft because we was arguing and told me he never wanted anymore kids (we have non together) since then things have got worse. He has gone from saying he wanted to try again, to really truley saying hurtful things. He told me i was a fat horrible mess, all im good for is sex because i have nothing else to offer, i have nothing going for me, im a foul cunt, hes met someone else and she made him feel special and wanted, he doesnt fancy me anymore. After all that i still wanted to try, because this wasnt the man i thought he was. He has continuinly avcused me of seeing other people (i havent) and tried to make me feel guilty. He told me my actions forced him to sleep with someone else. And when i told him that i wanted no further contact thats when he told me he was seeing someone else. He wouldnt let me move on. I feel so ashamed that someone who could call me all them things and i still want them, i feel so stupid. Hes hurt me so much, i feel lost and i stupidly still miss him and even make excuses for his behaviour. Is it my fault? He says he doesnt want to hurt me and he didnt want things to be like this. I finally broke contact with him 2 days ago.
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Because he wants to play mind games with you. The nice routine is a ruse for him to get you relaxed so he can be a bastard to you. Sick eh?
Very well done for going NC. Be aware he will try the nice tactic again to reel you in (or send someone in to fight his cause). It's all bullshit to keep you hooked into a vicious cycle that he controls.
Keep going. You'll notice it will slowly get easier until you reach a point were you absolutely know you will never go back. 
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