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How would you react to this?

(29 Posts)
sillywoman12 Tue 18-Apr-17 09:23:39

'Guys are gonna fuck you and leave you not give you love as your ugly'

Said by ex who apparently loved me for nearly 7 years of being with me and just broke off with me recently

fairgame84 Tue 18-Apr-17 09:25:13

I wouldn't react. Ignore and move on.

PhilTheSAHD Tue 18-Apr-17 09:40:41

As fairgame says pay no attention to it - sounds like he's being bitter about the split and trying to be hurtful for the sake of being hurtful. He was with you seven years, so clearly his actions do not fit his words.

onemorecupofcoffeefortheroad Tue 18-Apr-17 09:41:35

What a charmer! Hardly a very beautiful person himself if he can come out with gems like that.

Try and ignore and move on - difficult I know but anyone who can say something like that to a partner they spent 7 yrs with is really not worthy of any attention.

KungFuPandaWorksOut16 Tue 18-Apr-17 10:15:05

Must of had something special about you too keep him with you for 7 years.

He wants a reaction from you, you give a reaction shows you care. Ignore the tosspot.

AtrociousCircumstance Tue 18-Apr-17 10:17:31

He sounds thick as shit. Absolutely dumb. Pathetic. It's laughable.

AtrociousCircumstance Tue 18-Apr-17 10:17:43

And yeah ignore.

Damselindestress Tue 18-Apr-17 10:21:40

I would think he is a cruel, horrible person who is trying to sabotage your future happiness and you had a lucky escape. Cut off contact. His opinion of you is irrelevant. Best of luck for the future.

noego Tue 18-Apr-17 11:21:59

Don't believe anything anyone tells you especially from a psychological jealous misfit. I used to have all sorts of little remarks said to me by the ex. Then when I went out on the dating scene again and I was amazed at how many compliments came my way. It is a revelation when you have been devoid of compliments for a long period. .
Get out there dating and flirting. its fucking great.

roundandround4x4 Tue 18-Apr-17 12:08:28

I would react by saying "I wish you had!". Please just ignore, you are so much better off without someone like him.

mysinkingheart Tue 18-Apr-17 12:25:47

He can't stand the idea of you being with someone else imo.

Would be tempted to say "That's great news, can't wait to get back out dating again, the more the merrier!".
He's toxic.

Obviously though, the smart response is a resounding silence or a minimalist "stop texting me I have nothing to say to you and will no longer reply".
Or if it's face to face "well that was nasty, glad I'm free to meet someone nice now".
And you arewink

LobsterMac Tue 18-Apr-17 12:27:55

I would correct his apostrophes and send it back. That'd teach him.

What a stupid fucker.

TheNaze73 Tue 18-Apr-17 12:51:21

Any reply would show you're bothered. Block & move on

NameChangeInCasePeopleRecogn Tue 18-Apr-17 13:09:01

I would probably chunter in my head for about 48 hours, but my overriding feeling would be 'thank fuck I am no longer married to that thick dipstick'.

JustSpeakSense Tue 18-Apr-17 14:31:14

He sounds like a sad, bitter, pathetic loser. Ridiculous statements like that don't even deserve a response.

Chops2016 Tue 18-Apr-17 14:46:29

Says more about him than you if thats how he thinks about women.

He's obviously gunning for a reaction. Don't give him the satisfaction, just ignore.

sillywoman12 Tue 18-Apr-17 16:52:09

Knocks a woman down does make you think what if it's true :/

AnyFucker Tue 18-Apr-17 16:53:48

You were with this Neanderthal for 7 years confused

Please raise your bar

HerOtherHalf Tue 18-Apr-17 16:59:21

Knocks a woman down does make you think what if it's true

It's not true though, not remotely. You are not ugly. I can say that without even knowing what you look like. That's because beauty is entirely in the eyes of the beholder and frankly, inner beauty carries far more weight and has far more longevity than the physical kind. Look around you. You will see people of all shapes and sizes, some who fit your idea of beautiful and some who don't. There will be no connection between how they look and whether they are in a quality, loving relationship though.

Forget about your ex, you're well rid. Love yourself and you will find love.

tinglyfing Tue 18-Apr-17 16:59:51

He sounds like an absolute treat. Don't give his words a second thought. What a dick. An insecure one at that. He obviously can't stand himself. You know this.

tinglyfing Tue 18-Apr-17 17:05:38

Sounds to me like he's not sure he's doing the right thing by breaking up with you - he's trying to stop you going off with someone else and keep you dangling.

Ah well he's fucked that then hasn't he, because you won't piss on him if he's on fire now!!

Guiltypleasures001 Tue 18-Apr-17 17:13:17

Just because someone says something doesn't make it true op, what is true is his need to instil in you a Sense of inadequacy, which if left to fester becomes self fulfilling.

He wants to make sure you don't meet anyone else, especially someone who deserves you and treats you right, it's a dick move, from someone who is a dick. 💐

rainbowstardrops Tue 18-Apr-17 17:19:07

Ignore the twat. Who cares what he thinks?
He's just trying to hurt you. Don't let him.

sillywoman12 Tue 18-Apr-17 17:59:19

Considering he went really big at one point that it broke my friends bed when he sat on it and I didn't leave I helped it is a low blow..thanks all for this..helped me not feel so crappy flowersflowers

SpringLake Tue 18-Apr-17 18:05:36

I would guess he's finally expressing his emotion! As above have said. I would block (on all social media accounts) and move on. Never another word shared. Good luck in the hunt for a replacement unit (if/when you're ready)

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