We barely had a relationship even in the beginning. We were dating, I got pregnant very quickly and ever since then I've been 'trying' to make it work. Please don't be hard on me for this, but during the 4 years we had a second child. We only slept together once during that time, and of course the pregnancy was unplanned but I wouldn't change things now of course.
My children are my world and I would do anything for them. I've been living with their dad and despising him at the same time. I've tried to make myself love him, but I just don't. Every time I try to have a conversation with him about the fact we don't have a relationship and it isn't going to work, he acts as if I'm from another planet. He's actually amazed as he thinks we 'get along great' and that I must be a great actress to convince him otherwise. For me we are living as housemates who barely speak - when the kids are in bed I go to my room, he watches tv. I've told him all along my feelings and that I don't love him but I'm trying, but for some reason he chooses not to believe me.
He won't accept that we aren't in love, and accuses me of having mental health issues whenever I try to bring the subject up.
He will cry and be sick and sulk for days until I change my mind which is really unpleasant for the kids (he knows I will give in at that point).
I don't really know what to do. I need to end this as soon as possible. I'm exhausted and have pretty low resolve, and a lot of the time I think I can just manage to grin and bear it for however many years, which is why it never gets further than a row.
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Myloto1981 · 18/04/2017 05:54
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