My DP started a new job just before Christmas. Last week he came home from work and burst into tears. He's completely miserable and finding it difficult to cope under the pressure. I've never seen him cry in the 5+ years we've been together.
He said he made a mistake in some work he was doing that may end up costing the company money. Not a huge amount but still not good in his first few months. The thing is it was doing a piece of work unrelated to his experience and field. They seem to making the job different to the one he applied for and is actually good at. The senior staff member didn't take it well at all and offered little support other than to blame him.
It's been hanging over his head all Easter and he's been utterly miserable. He cried twice over the past few days and it just breaks my heart. He's a really kind and loving person and I hate seeing him like this.
I've been trying to support him as best I can. Saying everyone makes mistakes in work it's how you deal with it, that he's very talented and respected in his career (he is) and when he returns after Easter speaking to his boss about what went wrong as planned and raising the issues he has told me about. But I know he won't be as assertive as I would be and won't fight his own corner as well as he should.
He's been applying for another job he says he's desperate to get but it'll be effectively taking a step back career-wise and also a pay cut. He said he doesn't care the last few months have been horrendous and he can't deal with it any longer.
I support him in his choice though worry he will regret the move will have on his career. But I'm also worried because we were planning on starting to try for a baby next year and what will this do to our finances if he has less money? If money worries mean I have to reduce my maternity leave I worry I'll come to resent him. But at the same time I love him so much and it's been awful seeing him so unhappy over Easter.
Any advice?
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sparklingwaterandice101 · 17/04/2017 19:26
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