My DH is very close to his Dad. However, I feel that his relationship with him is getting in they way of our relationship, and his relationship with the DCs.
His Dad comes to our house every weekend an often stays for about 4 or 5 hours. They do odd jobs around the house, stays for lunch etc. If DS has a football match on, either I take him, or DH and his Dad do.
Often he comes on a Sunday too for dinner.
My issue is that this is the priority of our weekend. We can never plan anything else for Saturday mornings as that is the routine which cannot be broken. A few weeks ago, DH and DC had dentist appointments and haircuts and his Dad went with them!
Also I feel excluded from their cosy relationship.
I don't have any family so can't do the same thing with mine, and it means I'm often on my own.
He is often just 'hanging out' at our house, sitting in the kitchen reading the paper, which doesn't sound too bad but it means I don't feel relaxed.
Dh says I'm being selfish and unreasonable and his Dad is lonely.
But so am I.
It sounds silly but I want to spend timing hanging out with DH, pottering around the garden etc, working on something together, but feel pushed out.
How do I broach this without seeming like the wicked witch?
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How to deal with In-law
notmywords · 17/04/2017 12:32
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