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Am I over reacting? Fb related

(9 Posts)
AmberLin Mon 17-Apr-17 11:11:50

My husband of 4 years has just returned from a business trip to a major US city, one where he has previously lived and worked before we met. I have no reason to suspect anything. However last night I had a peek at his phone. I don't use fb and I sometimes nosy at his, he's fine with this. I went to search for something, it pops up his last search was his ex from city he's just got back from. I was gonna just put it down to curiosity but I'm kind of hurt by this. Currently 7 months pregnant with our second, I admit it very busy and he doesn't get much attention now - we have a very demanding 2 year old who I care for full time. I'm in bed at 8pm most nights, he works away during the week. He's been snapping at me constantly since his return, glued to his phone (nothing unusual there) and I want to know if I'm over reacting or not. Do I even bring this up? I hope it's not the start of him starting to "wonder" about all the past and what ifs and have beens. I feel fat and ugly right now and I'm just hurt. It doesn't help that he barely made contact on the trip either, said he was very busy. Do I talk to him about this or not?

qazxc Mon 17-Apr-17 11:19:04

As you say, him looking up an ex could just be down to nosiness, there doesn't seem to be any sign they are I contact.
I would however be having words with him about his behaviour towards you.

Justmadeperfectflapjacks Mon 17-Apr-17 11:20:25

Tell him what you saw or it will eat away at you for a long time. . .

category12 Mon 17-Apr-17 11:22:43

I would talk to him about the snappiness and being ignored in favour of the phone, and about lack of contact while he was away. I would hold off about the ex.

JK1773 Mon 17-Apr-17 11:22:50

I don't think this is anything to worry about. I have in the past looked people up on FB including exes. Not at all because I want to get in touch or rekindle anything, just because I'm a nosey mare.

AmberLin Mon 17-Apr-17 11:29:51

I'm nosey too and have looked up exes. Only during spells of boredom and certainly not because I'm interested in them. Im just wondering if he considered getting in touch with her while he was in town - he hasn't seen her since 2009 from what I can gather. I looked at her page and she's married 2 kids so I doubt very much she'd have been up for meeting him. I'm currently stormed out the house in my car after a fight. Scared if I raise this with him I could make situation worse.

WaxingGibbous Mon 17-Apr-17 11:30:27

I wouldn't worry about it. I'm a nosey cat and sometimes look through exs names, people I don't like and even people that are friends of friends but look interesting grin Dp does the same.

TheNaze73 Mon 17-Apr-17 11:36:38

You're overthinking this

shineon Mon 17-Apr-17 11:40:01

No I wouldn't worry about this. We have all done this out of pure nosyness. But definitely address the other issues between you

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