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Relationship in rut

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winterbaby85 · 16/04/2017 14:05

I'm with my husband for 10 years and married for 2. We have 2 DC together the youngest is only a few weeks. I find I'm getting very frustrated with my husband.
He works very long hours sometimes works at home in the evening. He says he has to in order to have the lifestyle we have i.e. me able to work part time and still afford holidays. He's always on the lap top or whatsapp groups. In the weeks leading up to the birth of our second DC our sex life dwindled a bit he says it was cos I was heavily pregnant and he didn't feel comfortable and whilst I'm recovering now and won't have sex until I feel I'm healed up I still feel hurt by his rejection. The other thing I'm struggling with is this morning he suggested heading out for the day and I was like grand sounds good and then he goes I'm not even gonna have a shower just get out and go. Straight away I'm repulsed by this as I love having my hair and make up done even just a little but I like to make an effort. It sounds awful but I feel I've lost my attraction for him but I can't tell him that. Maybe it's normal after having a baby. I'm also working hard at losing my baby weight for the summer and he's very supportive but I watched him eat 4 bars of chocolate last night.

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TheNaze73 · 16/04/2017 14:42

It sounds like you're coming at this from two different angles. Would it be better if he reduced hours & you worked full time?

BarneyRumbleton · 16/04/2017 14:47

It's very early days after having LO. My life was turned upside down for a good few months after both. I know some people seem to pop a baby out and carry on as normal but I don't think it's unusual for things to be a bit different in the first few weeks with a newborn.

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