I'm 25, 26 this year, and have been with my boyfriend for 7 months. Things are going wonderfully and for the moment I'm happy building memories together.
My boyfriend recently took me to his friend's wedding and began asking me what I thought about rings etc. At one point during the ceremony I could barely tear him away from a newborn baby. And to think women are meant to be the broody ones!
But last night he made some comments that concerned me. He joked about not being a fan of babies/children (news to me as he seems to adore his niece & nephew). I asked him about it and he just said he doesn't want them right now. When I asked if he is planning on being an older father, he said he didn't know - 'maybe', as his parents had him late in life (his mother was in her 40s) and his brother is having a kid in his 40s. He asked me the same question and I told him I wouldn't wait because my aunt (who I am very like genetically) started trying at 38 and couldn't have them. He just listened and said 'to be honest it's just not something I've thought about.'
I suppose in my mind I'd like to start trying by 30/31 and fear the thought of building a life with someone that doesn't want the same things. He wants to have more adventures and not give up his independence, nor do I yet. I want to keep enjoying our time together for now but I also don't want to find out in 2 years that we want different things. Any advice?
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When is a good time to broach *the future* with my partner?
KatDubs261 · 15/04/2017 13:06
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