Absolutely first thought on waking up today was -
"oh no, how many minutes til the screaming and tantrums begin"
and thats just my wife!
The kids are challenging but I feel boisterous more than bad.
They know their boundaries with me and behave 99% of time.
My wife cannot dress a 6 year old. She cannot oversee teeth cleaning. She cannot even brush her hair.
And I have now lost 99% of readers sympathy as most will be fitting and say I should do it or the kid should do it herself. I understand that
But when i'm away to work, she goes in to school filthy. She is late as 30 minutes of screaming at non compliance normally.
The neighbours have mentioned the daily yelling. Not in a nasty way.
Forgive me, but i have thought occasionally that I hope a neighbour report her/us to social services to bring situation to a head.
It's been like this 3 or 4 years. A neighbour where we used to live reported my wife 2 years ago and after a visit the social worker just dismissed the complaint. I had daily recordings on my phone at that point as genuinely I never thought anyone would believe how severe and harsh she is with our 2 kids.
I should do more you may say. I do 99% including all cooking shopoing and tidying up. She always has an excuse to be lazy.
I not ready to split as it's complicated financially.
I am not depressed. I just feel a deep pit dread each day. I work so hard to avoid confrontation each morning breakfasting the kids while she potters about for herself and showering which is mormal. But within 20 seconds of my going up to get dressed it all kicks off. The kids know her yelling and threats and falls on dead ears. I am blamed daily too ofcourse within this daily aggressive saga.
I have a wee cry in despair most days at this point. Just for half a minute - not a break down. I am typing this hiding in toilet for a minute as the battle commences downstairs.
The second I emerge a volley of abuse will be dished out and it will be all my fault. Again. It's grim here.
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Wake up dreading the yelling and sadness of the day
Stewart2017 · 15/04/2017 08:49
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