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He's bored

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PaintingOwls Fri 14-Apr-17 22:25:03

Of life as we know it.

DP has always been an adventure wanderlust type, and I am mostly a home bird, particularly in recent years as I get exhausted from work and just want to retreat and do some gardening and be alone. I've dropped most hobbies over the last few years because I just do not have the energy. I feel boring.

DP moved across the country to London for me. He lived an easy life on the beach but gave that up to get himself educated and be with me. We have been together for more than 5 years now.

We are quite isolated and neither of us have very many friends. This is made worse by the fact that we stopped drinking, and in the UK socialising is geared so heavily around alcohol.

This isn't how I thought life would be.

I'm currently at home, alone, because he has gone for an extremely long walk. He is upset, in a mood or something, and I am a coward and didn't ask about it.

He wants to do things and we don't have spare cash and I don't think we have direction in life and it's all a bit tragic, really.

I don't know how to make it better. For either of us. And I'm not sure what the point of this post is either, I suppose that I am looking for a slap, or advice, or something.

TalkingofMichaelAngel0 Fri 14-Apr-17 22:29:20

Write a plan together with how youre going to achieve it and when?

MrsTerryPratchett Fri 14-Apr-17 22:30:42

How did you think life would be? What would it look like if you had your way? What would it look like for DP?

I'm the itchy foot one in our relationship and I've gone off to travel without the family and convinced them this year to visit a more adventurous place. It's really important to me.

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