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Erectile dysfunction

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BaconMedallionsAndEggs Wed 12-Apr-17 22:30:16

Hello, my husband has been attending psychologist in relation to our non existent sex life. I was asked to attend the session yesterday with my husband.

Psychologist says my husband has erectile dysfunction and basically we are talking months and thousands of euro (based in Ireland) with this special intimacy workshop to help rectify the issue.

Has anyone been in this situation and come out the other side with proper sex life? I don't want to spend all this money and not have a result at the end of it!

LellyMcKelly Wed 12-Apr-17 22:48:02

I suppose it depends on why he has ED. If it's a physical thing then he should be exploring the reasons for that (e.g. High blood pressure, diabetes etc.) with a doctor, and considering the use of drugs like Viagra. If it's non existent because of psychological reasons, or because he's not attracted to you or other women or men then counselling might help him work through the issues. I'm not sure what you would gain from months of intimacy workshops though without knowing the reason for the ED. Is the psychologist a real, proper, psychologist registered with the appropriate professional body? Do they call themselves a clinical or counselling psychologist (legally protected terms for people with a clearly defined set of qualifications - in the U.K. anyway), or something different (like an analytical psychologist or relationship therapist) which anyone can call themselves? It does seem odd.

BaconMedallionsAndEggs Wed 12-Apr-17 22:55:32

Thanks for the reply. His website says these are his qualifications

Member of the Irish Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy
Dip. Psychotherapy
Dip. ITEC

He said the issue is psychological due to phimosis and getting adult circumcision to fix phimosis. Husband never had sex before we met due to phimosis then we got together saw issue went to gp to fix it. Sex life started off ok and got worse over time so that's why counselor said it is psychological. Gp has ruled out medical issue

BaconMedallionsAndEggs Wed 12-Apr-17 22:58:30

Also gp recommended this psychologist to us

crunched Thu 13-Apr-17 00:27:07

Not an area I know that much about, but I understand that certain parts of the penis can be super-sensitive once exposed by circumcision following phimosis. This sensation was described to me as if being burnt. I could imagine this may well cause psychological issues regarding PIV sex.
The GP would have ruled out the physical causes before suggesting a psychologist.

If you love your DH, want to achieve a full sexual relationship with him, can be supportive and you have the money, wouldn't it be worth a go?

BaconMedallionsAndEggs Thu 13-Apr-17 06:13:36

Well we would need to borrow the money but that's OK, was just hoping to hear from someone who has come out the other side of this

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