DH's brother and SIL live very close. It's just him and his bro, MIL lives a distance away. BIL is married with young children.
Now maybe it's just me but DH and his brother's relationship infuriates me. DH is desperate to be close to his brother and is constantly trying to make plans to see him and the kids. BIL rarely even responds to his messages and we only really see them when MIL is staying (twice a year) or if they need us to babysit.
BIL recently had a birthday party that he didn't invite us to, we are all of a similar age and have a lot of mutual friends so I was completely baffled as to why.
Unfortunately the SIL is very controlling so I feel she may have something to do with all of this although it could be nothing to do with her.
I can see how much this gets DH down and he doesn't take it out on me but it does leave him in a bad mood which does ultimately affect me.
I'm looking for some advice really as would love for us to be more involved with BIL and his kids lives, but at the same time I think he's a massive lazy shit who makes zero effort with my DH and almost doesn't deserve our effort.
Has anyone else been in a similar situation? Do I even attempt to get involved or just leave things as they are?
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eclipse16 · 12/04/2017 21:51
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