my DP has the habit of getting angry over little things and then he brings up the relationship and blames me for everything that goes wrong. Last night everything was great up to the point where i asked him what time about he would be back. (he was to go out with his brother for his birthday) Then he got angry over this, making sure that i understand that i am second best . It hurt me but i didnt say much because he was to go out and i did not want him to think that i try to ruin his day. When he returned , i told him how he made me feel (very calm, very polite, he gets angry very easy so i am very careful how i talk) He perceived it as i am trying to ruin his perfect so far night. I replied that i need to speak of how i feel but he wouldn't have any of it, he just got angry telling me that i nag him.He also told me so many negative things about my self that he honestly made me think that he is not happy to be with me. He went to sleep because as he said i exhausted him ( i barely talked as he was arguing and i didnt want it to escalate). Before i leave for work i sent him some messages . Here is what i wrote and what he replied, please give me your opinions
me : i love you more than anything and it hurt me so much when your words showed to me that i am the second best and not a proper family to you. Note i talk only for your words. Its ok whatever way you feel towards me, i can not change this. My only thought is that you should expect from me what you can give and not more or less (this was said because he always repeats how he has to be first in my life, above anyone else , even my child). I also really hope that you are happy with me. I love you and i want you to be happy and it worries me when you say all those negative things about me. I honestly thought that the past days were amazing , i am sorry i did not realise that it was hard for you to maintain them (this because i said that i had great few days and he replied that it was down too him accept my shit and trying not to get angry with me)
His reply later was : what a thing to wake up to in the morning. Meh , hopefully now that you said what you needed to say you will finally stop with this. Not gona bother responding to or acknowledge this anymore. Or it will go on and on
I tried to talk to him and he said he doesnt want to talk and that he would go out
What do you think please
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what do you think of this dialog
ithoughtitwasgood · 12/04/2017 16:45
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