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Worrying about what he's said about me to others.

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hhorvath · 12/04/2017 10:52

I just noticed that a friend of the guy I was dating has blocked me on social media.

Before that, we chatted once a week or so and stuff was friendly. He understood that stuff didn't work out between us and was actually quite comforting to me about what happened (the guy led me on for 6 months and then acted like I was crazy for developing feelings for him, and cut all contact in a really cruel way).

Now I'm worried about what he's said to him to make him do this.

I know I should let it go but it's really bothering me. I'm sure he tells everyone I'm a psycho bitch, that's what he said about his last ex. He even claimed she used to beat him up.

I know, I was an idiot for sleeping with him. I don't know why I'm posting I'm just really worried about what my reputation is now.

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ComtesseDeSpair · 12/04/2017 12:02

It's more likely that he's whittling down his FB "friends" and decided that he's probably not going to maintain long-term contact with the ex-girlfriend of a friend who only casually dated her for a couple of months. No reflection on you, it's what I'd do if I were him (theoretically, because I probably wouldn't have friends' short-term dates on my FB in the first place.)

And anyway, even if this bloke has told his friends you were a psycho bitch, you never have to see any of them again so their opinions don't matter. Furthermore, there's only so many times you can accuse all your exs of being nightmares before your friends start to take it with a pinch of salt anyway.

Have you considered counselling? Your self-esteem seems to have really suffered here - and I'd take a good guess that it was it that great even before you met this bloke?

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Kikikaakaa · 12/04/2017 12:07

Maybe your 'friendship' has just run its natural course? Other than your trauma experience do you have any other basis for being friends other than a shoulder to cry on?

Sorry what you went through. I would just move on

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hhorvath · 12/04/2017 12:45

Thanks for replying.

I would understand him deleting me but the fact I was blocked made me worry.

We're all on the same course at uni.

I am on the list for counselling because the whole thing affected me a bit.

I'm worried that he's started a smear campaign about me because my ex did that. Also the woman he was seeing before me, he was very nasty about. He told me that sex with her was disgusting and he was only spending time with her because he felt sorry for her.