Hi i have been separated from my EXH for a year now with very little contact. The breakup was very sudden and left me devastated .
I have done quite a lot of healing and have built a better more secure life for myself and DS.
Last week i received an email from ex at 1 in the morning asking me if i wanted a single bed as he was moving into a small flat and won't have room for it ?? quite innocent but very random and why would i need it as i have all the beds i need and he knew this.
Then a few days later i received an email telling me all about his life insurance he has taken out ? again not really any of my business now.
I answered politely on both emails but very blunt and to the point , i didn't enter into conversation with him.
Then i received a bolshy email having a go at me telling me he wasn't happy because i had told my son i would reward him for passing his GCSE's if he passes all of them. He was angry as some are predicted C's i think my son deserves a reward after all the upset and upheaval he has been caused and still trying his best to get through his exams.
Im just a bit unsettled again as to why the random emails that are not any concern of me and his anger at a choice i have made that is not anything to do with him. Why has he tried to start contact again. Then turned nasty.
Any thoughts and advice would be really welcome as I'm feeling a bit confused.
He's got the green eyed monster thing going on. His ego is damaged because you have proved that you do not need him to create a happy life for yourself. Go girl. Don't let his ego projections bring you down.
Exactly as above,,, I thought also maybe he was testing the water with the first two emails ? Seeing maybe if you would engage with friendly chat ? He sounds like a dick and well done you for coming out the other end !
What onecutefox says. Something hasn't worked out for him. Now he's realised you don't need him and he's trying to take it out on you. Don't respond now, don't indulge him, but keep the emails. What you've decided to do regarding your DS and rewards has nothing to do with him. He sounds jealous that you're so together.
Hi Does anybody think that maybe my ex is trying to find a way back to us with this behaviour and can't find the right words ?
For what its worth i am very curious much to my annoyance as i have no place for him in my life now, but for my own self belief would like to think he was very unhappy without us now he has had a taste of a year being a single(selfish Git). And now realises his happiness was right under his nose.
Even if he was trying to get you back....treating someone badly isn't exactly a good sign is it? It's most likely that he's bored/unhappy and wants attention from you (ego kibbles). You didn't respond to his 'nice' gestures, so now he's trying to get negative attention. It's about him, not you. Ignore him.