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How many proper friends do you have?

69 replies

TWOBANANAS · 10/04/2017 17:08

Not Facebook friends, not Instagram followers but real friends who you see, trust, confide in and who would be there for you if in trouble.

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Wishiwasmoiradingle2017 · 10/04/2017 17:14

Only my dh. .

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BendydickCuminsnatch · 10/04/2017 17:22

I think probably 2, one being a cousin so don't know if that counts. If it does count, then I'll count my mum too, so that's 3.

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BendydickCuminsnatch · 10/04/2017 17:22

Oh and DH of course. So one actually non-related friend. Wow, that's sad.

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ThisIsStartingToBoreMe · 10/04/2017 17:23
  1. When it comes to friends quality beats quantity.
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bananarama75 · 10/04/2017 17:29

Just 1 BF that is local and i can see regularly. Oldest friend lives too far so only email/occasional visits.

TBH working f/t I don't really have enough spare time to maintain more than friends than I've already got!

Think friends vary according to your age/circumstances. Had loads more when is were little but those drifted.

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wineusuallyhelps · 10/04/2017 17:43

I have four that I could call on if I was in trouble or ask big favours. I also consider my BIL to be in that bracket.

I have about ten more friends that I see regularly but not all the time. Some of those might only be a couple of times a year, but we go way back, so they're still important IYSWIM.

Then there's quite a few more friends I've met through the kids I wouldn't consider actual 'proper' friends, as in, I wouldn't see them socially if the kids weren't there. We are in contact because of the kids.

I always think I don't have that many friends compared to some people I know...

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Dowser · 10/04/2017 17:46

Quite a few.
I'm very fortunate

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Imi22sleeping · 10/04/2017 18:26

4

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TheDisappearingUser · 10/04/2017 18:28

Just dh. No one else that cares.

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User39912014 · 10/04/2017 18:31

One that I see like 5 times a year and my sister.

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thehousewife · 10/04/2017 18:33

I'd say 10, I'm quite social though but I've dropped a few recently as I realised after a life changing incident who my true friends were!!

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IAmTheWorwax · 10/04/2017 18:33

1 best friend that I could say anything too. 2 good mum friends, not best friends but meet up regularly.
Another 10ish couple friends that we meet up every month or so. They are mostly DHs though.

Do sisters count?

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MrsGB2225 · 10/04/2017 18:35

1 best friend, my sister and a couple of mum friends

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ParmaViolets17 · 10/04/2017 18:37

Six: 2 live locally, 1 I speak to daily, 3 I see less than once a year.

But I know I could call any of them at 4am and ask for help.

I'm lucky, but I don't have a family, DP, DH or DCs, so I guess these friends are my family.

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mackerelle · 10/04/2017 18:41

1 good friend, but none who are as close as some prior friendships have been.

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Honeyandfizz · 10/04/2017 18:53

1 very close friend. A few mum friends I go out for curry/drinks with. I genuinely don't hold many people close to me but my closest friend just gets me.

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Oblomov17 · 10/04/2017 18:57

4: 2 friends who live across the road, best friend from uni 20 years ago, friend from school 30 years ago.

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Arealhumanbeing · 10/04/2017 18:57

5

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Verticalvenetianblinds · 10/04/2017 18:58

dh, mum + 1 other

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user1489780837 · 10/04/2017 19:03

One and that's my mum

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BackforGood · 10/04/2017 19:09

Loads, but I've long since decided I have a different definition of a friend from what the common perception on MN is. Smile

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Sciurus83 · 10/04/2017 19:15

Eight very good ones. All over 300 miles away from where I live and I'm lonely day to day. I wish I had friends I could meet for a glass of wine or mooch round the shops.

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NameNotANumber · 10/04/2017 19:47

Really good friends - oldest friend from school, my sister and my boyfriend (not living together so not sure about calling him partner).

I have lots of other friends who I am close to, fond of, socialise with and could call upon them in an emergency not because I am particularly close to them but just because they are inherently lovely people who would want to be there if they knew there was a problem, as I would want to for them.

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cauliflowercheese14 · 10/04/2017 19:50

Only my DH, parents and sisters that I could absolutely call on whenever. I have 3 friends I am quite close to and would confide in but don't see any of them that often due to work / kids etc. I see local mum friends reasonably regularly and have closer friendships developing with a couple of them. I am very sociable but just don't seem to have the time any more.

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mumblechum0 · 10/04/2017 19:51

5 proper good friends and a lot (15 ish) of more casual friends who I meet for lunch/cocktails etc.

Family don't count as friends, they have to put up with me Grin

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