So this only dawned on me this weekend but it's so plainly obvious. I am constantly on MN posting under a range of usernames and commenting on others posts, I need actual physical friends. I'm so so lonely.
Background: Had problems with DH for a while, he is currently away on business (he opts to go away doesn't have to.) We have a DC together. I moved to his hometown before DC was born and have struggled hugely to make new friends; it's a small place, out in the sticks, everyone knows everyone else, it's very cliquey. I often go to toddler groups on my own whilst everyone seems so pally with each other. I do chat away and am v friendly but friendships don't seem to materialise.
My parents are extremely unreliable and tell me they are coming to visit but drop me at the drop.of a hat. I cannot visit them as they have been living with friends for the past 4 years after raking up tons of debt. It's not somewhere I would particularly like to take my DC also.
DH's parents live nearby and can be quite controlling/aloof so I don't tend to spend time with them on my own with DC when DH is away. Also, I'm not convinced they really enjoy my company and are all about DH and DC.
This weekend, I've seen nobody other than DC. The sun has been shining and I've seen big groups of families and friends picnicking in the park, pictures of garden BBQs on FB and I feel so down about my own existence.
I go to work but part-time, DH full time. He has lots of friends/hobbies whilst I don't have many at all. I sometimes visit friends back home but even those friendships are fading out. I've asked DH to arrange social gatherings for his friends and their wives/partners so I can mix more but he says he prefers it when it's just me and him! However, we're not even getting along.
When he's away though.... life just seems so.... empty. How much responsibility for my loneliness do I place on his shoulders? Is it up to him to fill the void? Or is it up to me to try and map a circle for myself here? I am terrible at making friends. Great for day to day chat... but friendships just don't happen for me.
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scruffleshuffle · 09/04/2017 18:36
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