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Anyone recovered from codependency?

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lonelynlost Sat 08-Apr-17 21:51:56

Has anyone recovered from codependency. I read about it and I think I am codependent in my relationship. I belong to a culture where women from previous generation didn't stand up for themselves. But I don't think I was codependent when I was younger. I had a lot of self respect.. Now I have pretty low self esteem and let dh insult me and forgive him without him apologising. It's making me depressed.

Has anyone built back self esteem? How long does it take usually and how did you do it? Would really appreciate your suggestions.

scoobydoo1971 Sun 09-Apr-17 02:03:48

You have to build a full and happy life beyond your husband. This means friends, hobbies, personal pursuits...whatever are your interests. You need to build your own resilience and independence through doing what you want. Some people are 'people pleasers' who always put their needs last, and they end up unhappy and depressed having become emotional sponges for everyone else. If that is you, then you begin by being independent and asserting your right to be yourself, and do what you like. From there grows your self esteem and confidence, as well as the excitement of doing new things and meeting new people.

When DH insults you, insult him back...and ask him how he feels about that? Question the validity of your marriage if he is not willing to change his ways and be respectful.

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