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social services took my beautiful children

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user1491683745 Sat 08-Apr-17 21:41:52

it really is not fair to do it to someone who absolutely loves and adores them they really need me and are probably so unhappy i am so done with life and really really want them with me

Underthemoonlight Sat 08-Apr-17 21:42:56

I think you need to expand further op why did ss take your DC?

Floggingmolly Sat 08-Apr-17 21:43:16

Why were they removed from your care?

BIWI Sat 08-Apr-17 21:44:24

They wouldn't have taken them for no reason. What happened?

Snap8TheCat Sat 08-Apr-17 21:45:51

Love isn't enough. There must have been reasons why.

Believeitornot Sat 08-Apr-17 21:46:41

What were their reasons for taking them?

TheoriginalLEM Sat 08-Apr-17 21:49:14

I am so sorry this has happened to you. Have you got legal representation? Have they told you why? What you need to do to get them back? have you been told when you can see them?

feathermucker Sat 08-Apr-17 21:49:31

Can you give us some more details?

HallowedMimic Sat 08-Apr-17 21:50:10

Why did they take them?

Did you have any warning?

Jemimapiddleduck Sat 08-Apr-17 21:50:13

This decision isn't normally made lightly - and I agree with the above poster that love isn't enough. It's the minimum actually

Wolfiefan Sat 08-Apr-17 21:50:30

I'm so sorry this has happened to you. It's not about whether it's fair on you though. They must have had serious concerns for your children. What advice have you been given?

Floggingmolly Sat 08-Apr-17 21:50:32

Well, from course she'll have been told why...

Graceflorrick Sat 08-Apr-17 21:54:02

Removing a child from their family only happens if there's no other option. If a child can be safely kept within the family, they will be. Why aren't your DC safe in your care OP?

Beachhairdontcare Sat 08-Apr-17 21:54:45

If your children need you then you can't be done with life. It's impossible to give you any advice when we don't know the circumstances, but regardless it must be truly awful for everyone involved.

NotStoppedAllDay Sat 08-Apr-17 21:55:06

Is it permanent?

treaclesoda Sat 08-Apr-17 21:55:58

I'm sorry that you are hurting, it must be terrible. But this hasn't come from out of nowhere, and as other posters have said, love is not enough.

RJnomore1 Sat 08-Apr-17 21:56:59

What have they said you need to change if they are to come back?

What support are you getting or do you need to make those changes?

TyneTeas Sat 08-Apr-17 21:57:50

When did they leave?

PyongyangKipperbang Sat 08-Apr-17 21:59:59

I cant imagine how much you must be hurting. But I am sure you know that there would have been good reasons behind their removal.

Are you prepared to make the changes necessary to get them back? SS will want them to be back with you as much as you do, if you work with them then you can get them back.

Its all in your hands now.

Bluntness100 Sat 08-Apr-17 22:01:16

Op, you need to say some more. Why did they take them? What are the conditions?

Mrsknackered Sat 08-Apr-17 22:01:52

No one here can really offer you advice or support until we get a better picture of what has happened.
I am sorry you are hurting, let's see what help we can get you but like previous posters have said that is a drastic move from social services, they're must be a strong reason for it.

HecateAntaia Sat 08-Apr-17 22:02:08

i am sorry. i cant imagine how painful it must be to be parted from your children.
but ss act in the best interests of the children . taking them away is rarely their first option.
are they offering you help and support?

gandalf456 Sat 08-Apr-17 22:04:22

I'm so sorry. Is it forever or is there a chance you could get them back?

highinthesky Sat 08-Apr-17 22:04:57

This must be agony for you OP. I hope you get the RL support you need.

CaliforniaHorcrux Sat 08-Apr-17 22:05:07

That's really horrible for you but don't be done with your life

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