DH had a short lived affair with a work colleague. It lasted around 6 weeks. He was an utter arsehole toward me for the time, and left to move in with her. She still lived at home with her mum (early 20's)
He told me that he wanted to give us another try. I said no, he moved out of her home to his mums, and handed his notice in, with immediate effect. Found a new job within a week or so. Worked on establishing my trust. I took him back.
He has done everything 'right'. Starting of with full access to it all. Answered all questions. Got STD tests (all clear) We've been on a marriage counselling course type thing, and read Shirley Glass book.
He is where he is when he says so. I have passwords etc given to me - although I don't use them really, as I know it wouldn't make a difference, if he would do it, me having this wouldn't stop him.
Our marriage is better than it ever was, as in we are open and honest and make an effort. we do family things more often, he wasnt interested before really.
It's like he's realised what he nearly lost, and it's opened his eyes. So why do I feel like I'm forever stuck in an emotional horror? I get flashes and images in my head. I struggle with sex, and my faith in most things is gone.
Is this normal? Has anyone got past this into something better? does anyone have any words of wisdom?
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