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Argh I done it again

(6 Posts)
Gohackyourself Sat 08-Apr-17 09:52:02

So another relationship of 10 months down pan.... why oh why does it happen?!

I married my teen sweetheart- was together 13 years, he cheated.
I had some time on own, then met a man, got married a few years later.10 year relationship ended with him cheating.

I recently had 3 years on own, coffee dates etc.

Met a wonderful man an it's been great for 8 months... now in the past two we realise that trying to combine kids,shift work, it's getting difficult. Past two months has been nothing but niggles.

I just feel doomed - a kid of divorced parents and never gonna achieve that happy relationship.crying as I write because it just feels every relationship I touch goes wrong.

Don't know what advice I expect- just wanted to put this somewhere

Greyhoundgal30 Sat 08-Apr-17 10:09:13

Don't blame yourself, sometimes things just don't work, people don't fit it's just the way it is. I know how you feel when you see people who appear to have the fairytale, chances are it's not perfect either. You will meet the right person for you and everything will just fit. Xx

Gohackyourself Sat 08-Apr-17 10:12:39

Thanks greyhound-
I think the single life will be for me in future- no more believing there's someone for everyone, I'm sure there are some people , me included, that are just better on own, not that that is what they want, but their just too broken to be fixed!

LesisMiserable Sat 08-Apr-17 11:27:06

The first thing to remember as a woman is life isnt a disney film,there are no prince charmings any more than there are princesses so stop seeing the happy ending as a destination. People cheat every day for a myriad of reasons, this is not personal to you or your exes. Enjoy the journey. It sounds like real life minutae is when it goes to crap for you, which I totally get, that was me. You have to change your mindset. If you meet the right one it will just flow and yes it absolutely might still go to shit, so what? We are human not limpets we don't have to cling to any given situation. Life is about change.

Gohackyourself Sat 08-Apr-17 14:46:41

Lesismiserable- I m definitely not clinging to every situation- I've been on my own as a single parent after both the males done the cheating , and picked myself up, dusted down an the whole myriad of emotions that go with it-

I changed my mindset and then you have to let that "warrior princess" act drop a little to let someone in, I nearly scared this one off with my independent stuff.but that's where it's so frustrating for it to go wrong again. It seems when you let that guard down , it happens confused

missmove38 Sat 08-Apr-17 16:55:54

I'm feeling like this today..no words just wanted to know you're not alone

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