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user1491596005 Fri 07-Apr-17 21:26:54

So was using my husbands phone. Found an email address I didn't recognise. Turns out he posted an ad with a photo of his appendage saying he was married so was looking for discreet NSA fun. Morning or daytime preferred (when I work).
'Apparently' he was just looking for attention. But who f&*^ing knows how far he would've gone before I he got caught.
I dont know how to feel, he didn't cheat but would he have done?

IsNotGold Fri 07-Apr-17 21:38:46

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Confusicous Fri 07-Apr-17 21:46:19

Sorry OP

I think by the time men even think about cheating if they don't come to you to talk about temptations its over

It wouldn't be extraordinary to have a wild thought, but to have one and start considering acting upon it... Things are screwed flowers

user1491596005 Fri 07-Apr-17 21:58:43

Thats what I thought. There were even messages asking where the respondents lived.

IsNotGold Fri 07-Apr-17 22:31:01

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Toobloodytired Fri 07-Apr-17 22:33:23

Even if it was "attention" if he found someone he clicked with, he'd have happily cheated on you.

user1491596005 Fri 07-Apr-17 23:01:02

1 school age child. Been together 16yrs 😭

user1491596005 Sat 08-Apr-17 18:16:04

Ive also found a photo of a topless woman in his google drive ☹️

Toobloodytired Sat 08-Apr-17 18:20:28

Unfortunately, once a cheat always a cheat.

He won't stop, he'll just be more clever getting rid of the evidence.

You'll only question everything he does

user1491596005 Sun 09-Apr-17 19:54:17

I haven't left yet - am I a mug to want to stay?

Confusicous Sun 09-Apr-17 20:25:44

Not a mug. It's understandable... But he won't stop if you do stay

IsNotGold Sun 09-Apr-17 20:32:37

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user1491596005 Sun 09-Apr-17 20:38:21

He said it was for attention and he would never cheat on me. I can't find any evidence of another woman, just the ad and a few spam emails.
he is very very remorseful.

Mumfun Sun 09-Apr-17 20:41:35

cheaters always lie. And they always say they haven't done anything.

then you find a lot more did actually happen

sorry op flowers

IsNotGold Sun 09-Apr-17 20:50:04

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user1491596005 Sun 09-Apr-17 21:05:40

He's deleted the ad and his email that he used. I managed to undelete his email account but all emails had been deleted. I caught him Friday morning and since then nothing suspicious into his email address.
I don't know how else to check on him - I've googled his username, scrolled through to see if he's on there. nothing.

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