Knock some sense into me

[Deucebumps]

I've just been dumped. There were a lot of things I didn't like about him but more that I did. We've split before and got back together but this is definitely the last time. It shouldn't affect me this much by now but it's my fucking birthday tomorrow and I can't spend it being a crying mess. Talk some sense into me please....

[Kittencatkins123]

Do you have plans for your birthday? I was dumped just before mine once and I was in shock - got through it though, friends and alcohol really helped (luckily I'm a happy drunk!). Write a list of all the things you hated about him and get friends to add to it. Read and re-read. Remind yourself that the good isn't worth the bad - you are worth all good! (Or nearly all good!) Make plans, keep busy, go running or to the gym, set yourself a goal (eg I did a 10k). Day by day, week by week it gets better.

[Deucebumps]

I'd probably be more of a miserable drunk right now. My parents are visiting, so that will keep me occupied but not sure how I'll be once they leave. None of my friends like him, so all I'll get is 'I told you so'. Not sure I can handle that right now. They thought he was a piece of shit and I guess I should have listened to them more.

[Cricrichan]

It's normal to mourn the end of a relationship even if you were unhappy and instigated it. Spend time with people who love you and make you laugh and happy birthday xx

[Toobloodytired]

My ex was a wanker, still hurt when he left.

I was miserable for weeks, however I had hormones to add to the mix (I was pregnant).

It gets easier, think positive. Think about something you'd like to achieve & set about doing it xx

[AnnieAnoniMouse]

Ok. So, my advice? Organise a night out with all of your friends and positively rubbish him and let them too. Hopefully it'll stop you get getting back together with him this time. Next time, listen to your friends. Several people who care about you all saying the same thing are seldom wrong.

Sob tonight.

Celebrate your newly found freedom tomorrow.

[TheNaze73]

I'd organise out with friends. Don't rubbish him, or give him any air time. Now is the start of the rest of your life. Happy Birthday

[Dontaskmegoogleit]

Happy birthday

[Adora10]

It still hurts even when you know your friends are right and they will be OP; you need to make your birthday full of fun; keep busy, only time will heal.

[Wishiwasmoiradingle2017]

Jab jab backhand. .
Now see tomorrow as the beginning of better days. .
Make plans even if just on your own (or an mn virtual for support (8pm OK?)
Block all ways of contact and social media. . You deserve a fresh start. .

[Booboo27]

It's never nice when a relationship ends, even if it wasn't a happy one, as it still feels like rejection. You'll also still be clinging on to the 'good things' about him and wishing it could have worked out.
He's not the one for you and if it was right then it wouldn't have ended like this.
Don't beat yourself up for feeling like crap though. I doubt anyone who has just gone through a break up will be feeling great in themselves. definitely try and enjoy tomorrow as much as possible by keeping busy and having some fun. Don't keep looking at your phone and don't torture yourself by discussing him with friends/family on your birthday

[abbsisspartacus]

Good things are rejected by people who can't afford them all the time

[Dontaskmegoogleit]

Hey deuce. I hope you have had a good day in spite of your ex, and that you have something great planned for tonight.
Doesn't have to be all singing all dancing celebration. ..just treat yourself . Fuck the expense !