Just that really.
Haven't heard from my ex in over a year. We were together nearly ten years and he was an emotionally abusive shitbag for most of that time. I can't think of a single thing I miss about him and I kick myself every day for not getting out sooner.
Anyway, he texted me out of the blue this evening to 'just let me know' that he's getting married next month.
I didn't ask any questions but I can only assume the bride is the woman he cheated on me with, who he was 'officially' dating within weeks of our breakup. He always maintained that 'nothing happened' while we were still together, like he expects a fucking medal for being so virtuous. But even if nothing physical happened, she's the woman he was staying out until all hours with after work, conveniently 'forgetting' to mention that he was with me at the time ('it just never came up'... right 
) and frankly I really don't give a shit whether or not they happen to have slept together during that time. The betrayal was there either way.
Anyway. I don't know why I'm posting other than to get that little rant out of my system! I'm happy with a new partner now and know I shouldn't care what he gets up to. Just... is it too much to ask that he remain lonely and miserable while I enjoy my fabulous new life?!
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He's marrying the OW
frieda909 · 05/04/2017 21:54
Lucky lady! Glad you are happier. I wonder why he felt the need to tell you?
the wife to be will be on here before long moaning about him and no doubt asking if she should ltb.
good for you op, it's great that things turned round for you in such a positive way. 
A man in a happy relationship doesn't contact his ex begging for forgiveness and telling her he's a changed person.
Nope, he doesn't, does he? What's worse is at the time when I was getting all those grovelling messages, I had no idea he'd been seeing her. He gave me the impression he'd been miserable and alone that whole time. I actually felt sorry for the bastard, and horribly guilty that I'd been out slutting it up dating while he was apparently having such a tough time. And then of course I found out the truth, and that those messages had been sent while he and OW were temporarily broken up (great start to their love story, eh?)
Smile and then forget all about it.
Excellent advice 
Thank you so much to everyone who's replied, I can't reply individually to each of you but I am reading everything and truly grateful for your kind words!
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Fuzzy - my grandparents separated in the mid-1950s, and had virtually no contact whatsoever, despite having three children together.
When my grandfather's girlfriend (the OW as it turned out, and the first of many) had their first daughter after a series of boys, he wrote to my grandmother to tell her that he had named his first-born daughter after my grandmother's dead mother! My great-grandmother had died a horrible, horrible death (untreated breast cancer in the late '30s) when my grandmother was a young child and my grandfather knew that my Gran (a) had always wanted a daughter, (b) was still grieving the death of their daughter who had died at birth, (c) had always planned on naming a daughter after her dead mother!
I didn't know my grandfather, for various reasons, but I am in touch with my aunt who was named after her father's ex-wife's dead mother. She's a lovely woman, but... even she says that my grandfather's decision (he named all of his children, their mothers didn't get any say in the matter) was very odd and more than a bit emotionally abusive/manipulative. It really hurt my grandmother. Which is what he intended, I think. 
My grandfather was an odd man, though. Lied to several women about his marital status, had children with all of them (I have aunts and uncles who are years younger than me), left them high and dry as he flitted between them all. My aunt-who-was-named-after-my-great-grandmother believed for years that her parents had been married, for example. Men who behave like this... they're just very peculiar. And never in a good way.
to you, OP. Sounds like you had a fortunate escape from a very odd man!
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