I've been feeling massively taken for granted recently. Have 1 DC, 3.5yo, not married to DP, still waiting. I'm getting more and more upset and worked up by this as we had planned to marry by now, but DP just keeps saying he's not ready, however he says he wants another child!
I'm not the easiest going person and DP is the total opposite... almost horizontal. He's v old fashioned and obviously sees the housework as my domain although claims other wise, says he believes in equality but obviously begrudges doing much himself and never prioritises it. I also work part-time/ often full time as I run my own business, he works full time.
I can be difficult to live with, I can be snappy when I'm tired and hormonal, I like the house to be acceptable, tidy will do. DP doesn't worry about the house looking tidy.
Tonight, we cooked dinner between us, sat and ate as a family and just as I'd finished DS asked me to take him to the toilet. I did so and left DP in the dining room, assuming he would clear away the plates as I was seeing to DS. Afterwards, I bathed and put DS to bed whilst DP came upstairs afterwards to put up some furniture in our bedroom. After this I went into our bedroom and DP and I had sex, chatted etc. I was about to begin some work when DP announced "we still need to clear the dining room" This was 3 hours after we had eaten! I'd assumed DP had done whilst I was seeing to DS. I am not very happy and have voiced this to DP. As I wasnt clearing the table, it's like he thought " well why should I?" Even though I had gone to take DS to the toilet.
I know how tiny and petty this seems but I'm just so tired of feeling like if I don't set the wheels in motion for everything g in our household, then it just won't get done. Please don't tell me I should have asked DP to clear the table... it was painstakingly obvious. He was the last one to leave the table, I was busy, surely he should clear it? To go downstairs at 9.30 pm to begin clearing cold leftovers from the dining room table that have been sitting for 3 hours because DP left empty handed and decided to sit and please himself whilst I dealt with DS just seems so selfish to me.
Am I being petty? Is it me? I just feel so bloody taken for granted lately, but reading this back, it also sounds insignificant.
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