Hello. Since i met my DH he is progressively makes me feel that i have to loose every part of myself in order to satisfy him and if i ever talk against he will always go into a rage or sulky mood and make me feel terribly guilty. please need a clear perspective of whats right and wrong because i literally can not think clear anymore.
When i met him everything was great. He is loyal ,caring(or so i though , not sure about that anymore )etc
The last week he got very upset with me because i was commenting on a character in a movie, apparently i was trying to insult him through the character because everything the movie hero was doing he would do and if i dont like it it means i dont like him. For the rest of the movie he would comment every few minutes that "i bet you dont like that too" etc
Also i couldn't call him at work but i messaged him instead to let him know. Later at night i fell asleep and wasnt waiting for him to return , that caused a huge argument because apparently i dont care about him anymore, he" doesnt give a shit " if i messaged i should have called and "he wont care about me anymore because he is the only one who tries" Note that he fell asleep many many times and it never bothered me...
Today i asked him for a bit affection and it cause a huge huge argument. He said that he has to be logical about it because i never like any of his responses and asked what he can do. I said, whatever you feel like doing i just need to feel a bit affection. Then somehow it turned it to him and telling me how ungrateful i am , and how he tries despite the fact that i angered him a lot and how nothing works with me and i hurt him. I said well how it all turn about you again , you are selfish because i only asked you for a bit affection and you turn it all on you. Definitely he made me regret saying that. First he started telling me how i dare call him selfish, and where that comes from and no normal person would treat him like that etc. i was kept saying that lets leave it i dont want a problem but he said he wouldnt leave it. I told him that all our argument sis because he takes every little thing as personal attack and that angered him even more. To cut the long story short, he later went into total silence demanding me to apologize for my behavior. When i did he said is not sincere. Concluded as i pushed him him far away, that this week i have been horrible to him and if i can not see it then there is something wrong with me. He said i have to fix it or he is to the point to leave me because he had enough of me. I said i dont know what you want me to fix because i dont think that i did anything "horrible" and went cold and said that he is totally shut down and i pushed him too far this time. Apparently is up to me to fix it or he will leave because he has been trying and i havent. The only things that happened this week is what i describe, my logic tells me that nothing is as horrible as he makes it but he is been like that since the beginning so i am so confused as to whats right and whats not. Please give me your opinions, i am getting depressed by all that
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please give me your opinion because i am lost with DH behavior
user1491244207 · 03/04/2017 19:53
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