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Would it bother you if your DH wanted to use a sex toy on himself?

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DaveBir Mon 03-Apr-17 18:02:46

I know there is a sex topic but I haven't been here long enough unfortunately blush I have been here a couple of months, but have name changed for this.

Just what the title says really. He has asked if we "give it a try" I was a bit surprised and don't really know what to say! Would it bother you?

StoatofDisarray Mon 03-Apr-17 18:04:28

No, it wouldn't bother me in the slightest, although if he's putting it up his bum I would prefer he got one of his own, or at least put a condom on it.

Whisky2014 Mon 03-Apr-17 18:06:31

No, its the same for women isnt it? Not weird and can enhance pleasure

Gallavich Mon 03-Apr-17 18:07:05

There is nothing you can safely take to lower your sexual drive so that's not an option. I'm afraid your only option is to put up with it or leave him, sadly

Gallavich Mon 03-Apr-17 18:08:07

Oops sorry! Wrong thread. You don't have to leave him over sex toys grin
I'm afraid I would find it a bit off putting if he wanted to put things up his bum during sex.

DaveBir Mon 03-Apr-17 18:08:42

Yes he wants one for his bum!

It makes me feel a little uncomfortable.

Moussemoose Mon 03-Apr-17 18:09:50

Get him one of his own. Somethings are one person things.

RockyBird Mon 03-Apr-17 18:10:44

Things get lost up bums too if they're not official bum toys. Ask any A&E worker.

Moussemoose Mon 03-Apr-17 18:11:10

Special prostate massagers are available. Apparently it is very good for the prostate and reduces the risk of prostate cancer.

NotTheFordType Mon 03-Apr-17 18:12:11

Lots of guys like anal stimulation.
It's really no different to you using a bullet (or even just rubbing your clit) during sex.

chipsandpeas Mon 03-Apr-17 18:14:15

sex toys arent exclusive to women lovehoney (other online shops are available) have sections for male sex toys whether they be butt plugs, cock rings etc

TitaniasCloset Mon 03-Apr-17 18:14:38

Give it a try and keep an open mind maybe, it might be hilarious or fun to watch, but he definitely needs ti get his own. He might hate it, my d friends ex was desperate to try this but didn't enjoy it at all in the end.

TitaniasCloset Mon 03-Apr-17 18:15:37

Honestly it might bother me a little bit though, but I have never tried that so I don't know.

MattBerrysHair Mon 03-Apr-17 18:21:31

Not in the slightest! We have lots of sex toys and really enjoy them. We break out the anal toys for special occasions grin

HecateAntaia Mon 03-Apr-17 18:29:39

it's his body. it's no different than a vibrator or dildo or something. and massaging the prostate is supposed to feel good isnt it?
as far as sex stuff goes, a plug up the bum is quite vanilla.

HermioneJeanGranger Mon 03-Apr-17 19:56:09

Meh, wouldn't bother me in the slightest - so long as he washed it afterwards grin

VestalVirgin Mon 03-Apr-17 21:29:56

Here I was, thinking he'd bought a sex doll or something misogynist like that.

What's the problem with a butt plug?

BrownAjah Mon 03-Apr-17 21:34:02

Meh. It's not something I would use but if DH wanted to try it, why not? Where's the harm if it gives him some pleasure?

Thattwatoverthere Mon 03-Apr-17 22:27:44

An ex had one (inherited from me). Happily I didn't get it back when we split. He loved it and I didn't mind at it all.

Composteleana Mon 03-Apr-17 22:30:00

I'd be all for it.

Smeaton Mon 03-Apr-17 22:31:17

Butt plugs are designed for this, as are prostate massagers.
There are even things called strap ons which are, quite frankly, awesome.

If you use one yourself or you use one during sex is it not a little selfish to say its weird if he wants to use one? But, that does not mean you should do anything that makes you uncomfortable.

PoorYorick Mon 03-Apr-17 22:38:37

No. It's physical, sensory stimulation.

I absolutely assure you that many, many men enjoy it and are not gay or submissive. It's a sensitive area with a lot of nerve endings and blood vessels.

Ineedmorelemonpledge Mon 03-Apr-17 23:10:47

Yes I'd be fine with it. I am fine with it. I bought one for him. wink

Joysmum Mon 03-Apr-17 23:12:51

I'd be fine but I'm not an arse person myself so he'd have to use it on himself.

SleepFreeZone Mon 03-Apr-17 23:13:58

It depends what he wants to buy. A standard prostrate you would t bother me. A huge black dildo probably would.

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