So without going into detail I'm feeling totally lost and upset. Met someone 7 months ago..on a dating site..(had been speaking for months before but never met) fell for each other straight away and have been inseparable ever since. Not full on In each others pockets but a lot and have pretty much everything in common/same views etc.
He works nights (I've posted about this before) and the weekends are our main time together. It's caused a few rows if he doesn't get enough sleep and we've been arguing on and off due to it..it passes and we carry on. Queue yesterday when he got cross again due to lack of sleep..he wasn't happy when. I got up and we ended up arguing as he said I had little respect that he was in the bed and it got out of hand with him being not very nice in terms of throwing verbal abuse at me.
I get to my friends yesterday after the row and she tells me she's something to tell me..that he was on tinder last weekend..I was heartbroken and confronted him..he denied it but immediately removed me off Facebook and has blocked me on everything he can.
Obviously there's bits to this but nothing major..nothing enough to warrant this. I love this bloke, he's so perfect in my eyes, I feel like the last 7 months have just been ripped away from me while the rest of me wonders if he's been cheating on me for some of it..
Seagull he says I'm restless and it keeps him awake. I've apologised for this as obviously don't know I'm doing it? I've only ever been in 2 long term relationships previous to him never been like this with other partners (or I've never been told if I am). He's ended up in my spare room before but even that's an issue, he blames the cats, even the birds outside..actually as I read this if he hadn't been like it from the start I would think he was doing it to start a row. He is fed up where he lives too as has builders above his place at the mo so seems constantly tired. The really sad thing is if he had a day job I'm sure he'd be spot on
Thanks for the replys. Sorry didn't put down everything and yes tinder is a big part. I have proof, he actually swiped a friend of hers and I have screen shots with dates of proof. He said he'd shut down the profile ages ago yet when we first got together ago he had a go at me for having not totally shutting my account down straight away he said he wasn't on any?
No he hasn't unblocked me I find out tonight from my eldest that she has messaged him this morning asking what's going on, that he was too a big part of her life (she never got on with my ex) and she was so sad..that broke my heart. He read her message and never replied..I feel even worse now.
Ittooshallpass I know you're right. I know reading that, that I need to move on but it is very hard all the same. Yes he's shouted abuse but I'm assuming in anger as he's been caught, he was never as rude the rest of the time just moody. I know that if he cared about me he'd have made an effort to speak to me not block me..I know he wouldn't have said such hurtful things..I didn't. I try and think of the bad but he was so lovely in so many ways..a proper gentleman, generous, loving, asking about my day, we've spent so much time together and done so much he has become a big part of my life. I know some people don't work, I'm just truly shocked at how he's just walked away.
Can someone please explain to me why I read so many threads like these, where women say how much they love this guy, he's perfect when clearly they are far from perfect, it is never just one incident but several?
OP, there are LOADS of guys out there who wouldn't be moody with you just because they work nights. Who don't verbally abuse people. Who don't go on dating sites while in relationships. In many cases, don't even have rows. You yourself say you've been arguing on and off about stuff - you've only been together 7 months! I was with my ex partner and she and I only had one argument in 11 years!!!
Let's not say what's wrong with men, because lots of us (I am one of them) are not like this at all. Just confine it to "what's wrong with THIS man?" and the answer to that question is "Because he's a total wanker".
Waste no more time on him or thinking about him or thinking that you were in love with him. It's not love when you treat someone like that OR allow yourself to be treated like that.
This feels no better a week on..feels like weeks have passed. Minimal contact, still blocked but did messenger him. No real sense from it just blaze attitude. One minute I'm wound up the next crying my eyes out. Absolutely miserable at the moment and can't see past any of the good bits