I need some opinions on wether I am just being sensitive and expecting too much OR if I'm quite right to be feeling pissed off!
My partner left for work this morning 6:30, just as I was coming downstairs with my 3yo (prev relationship) and our 7 month old baby, ready to fill an 11 hour day with them on my own. As he went to leave he kissed me, kissed the baby and my 3yo was just sat there. He didn't even attempt to say goodbye to her. So I said, "what about E?" His response was that he didn't think she would want to. Now the thing is, they have a strained relationship, my daughter is very hot and cold with him which results in him not bothering. That is my issue. We have had talk after talk about him putting in the work and effort with E, lengthy discussions about how important it is that there is no difference between 3yo and baby. I feel that something isn't right and I have tried and tried to get through to him, I'm at the point now where I'm thinking it's at the point where if I don't do something about it soon it's going to affect her. He's great with me, with baby but with my 3yo all he sees is the tantrums or the strops, nothing good. I just don't know how much more I can try to drum into him that he needs to put more work in with my daughter. He's been in her life since she was 16 months old, am I right in thinking we shouldn't be having these issues? It's not like he's a new person in her life, in fact I imagine she can't remember her life without him being in it. All this aside....
I text him on his break and asked why he didn't acknowledge E this morning, he said a few things and then said he had to go.
Today I have cleaned the house, walked with the baby and 3yo to go shopping, lunch, park, flower shopping, walked home, we've planted seeds etc I've fed and changed the baby all day, mowed the grass etc he comes back from work and says nothing at all. The only reason I knew he was there was because I looked up, seen him there and jumped!! He says bare minimum to me. I then made dinner, gave him his dinner, no thank you or anything, I fed the baby hers while I ate mine, he finished his and just sits down right next to us, no offer to take over or anything. Puts his plate in the kitchen, no attempt at washing up while in STILL feeding the baby. Just sits there. I had to ask him to do baby's pjs. Still not talking to me, hasn't asked what we've been doing, no recognition of everything I have done today. Nothing. I feel like the house maid.
I just don't know what to do anymore
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Please help me make sense of this....
Ricecrispies16 · 02/04/2017 19:09
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