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Run off with younger woman

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user1488723505 Sun 02-Apr-17 17:59:29

Can I ask have any of your husbands run off with a ( much) younger woman? Did it last? Mine has left after 20 years marriage with a girl half his age and younger than our kids. What do they see in each other? What on earth do they talk about? Is it a MLC ?

TheNaze73 Sun 02-Apr-17 18:15:57

Friends have done it & still together. What's an MLC?

emilybrontescorset Sun 02-Apr-17 18:18:11

I know people who've left for you younger partners, not quite as big an age gap as this though.
Sometimes they do work sometimes not.

DevelopingDetritus Sun 02-Apr-17 18:18:43

Oh, it's surely an ego boost for the man, re living his youth, pretty pathetic really. Sorry you're going through this.

happypoobum Sun 02-Apr-17 18:20:09

Rather than dwelling on whether or not his relationship will last, can you try to spend time focusing on yourself and your future?

I promise you will feel much better for it.

You cannot control him/his relationship but you can control (to some extent) what happens with you next. Try to see it as an opportunity to change things for the better flowers

Mintychoc1 Sun 02-Apr-17 18:20:51

I'm guessing MLC is mid life crisis. I am baffled by age gap relationships, but I'm sure I'd be flamed on here for saying that, as plenty of people seem happy with partners of a different generation. As to men leaving their wives for younger models - it seems painfully common, and sometimes it seems to work, other times not.

I feel for you OP, it must be horrible.

Bubblebath01 Sun 02-Apr-17 19:49:12

My 52 yr old partner (together 27+ yrs) ran off with 21 yr old divorcing barmaid. MLC with bells on. Let's just say karma also with bells on! You have your integrity Hun. 😘😘

Mrsfluff Sun 02-Apr-17 19:56:01

My ex left this time last year, for a girl of 19, he was 38 and we'd been together for 20 years. I was devastated at the time. However, he now looks rough and knackered - I definitely had his best years. They're still together and his relationship with our teenage daughter has suffered.
I'm happy, doing well at work and have a lovely boyfriend. My daughter is doing great and our relationship is solid. I didn't realise that I'd come out the other side so happy! Good luck.

iloveredwine Sun 02-Apr-17 20:18:45

My ex was 44 and had an affair and eventually left to be with a 22 year old he met as his intern at work. They are still together although he is never there as works in the US. He does look rough thoughsmile

user1488723505 Mon 03-Apr-17 07:37:35

I can only think having to um keep-up with a girl in her 20s would make any man look a bit rough Wine ! Haven't seen mine to judge yet but my judgey- pants are ready.

iloveredwine Tue 04-Apr-17 20:17:24

There is that but would have thought the 20 year old would have binned him by now! Here's hoping! Definitely judgy pants here!wink

wherearemymarbles Tue 04-Apr-17 21:30:17

If she is her 20's i doubt they are doing much talking!!!

One day she may not look upon his beer belly with such fondness...

nehapea Tue 04-Apr-17 22:08:27

What potentially baffles me is not the age gap per se, but at what stage of life people in age gap relationships are.

For example: 30 yo with 50 yo = Fine, they are both grown up adults.

20 yo with 40 yo = Creepy. The 20 yo is barely out of school while the 50 yo is (or should be) a mature man/woman.

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