Ok, I'll start: I've mentioned this before but namechanged since.
DM always been narcissistic, and the final straw was when she rang me on Xmas day from abroad (not the Xmas just gone, the one before).
She knew we were going to PILS as we usually do) and decided to be nasty.
She knew we were going away a week later for my 50th bday and had to be nasty about that, saying we didn't need any money to get out of the country we were going to: Mexico. (we did know, but she thought we were stupid enough to believe her. That's what she was like.
I spent my 50th crying because of her behaviour over the years.
Anyway when we returned to the UK, I vowed to break contact altogether. Knowing full well that if I went to see her and tell her what I thought of her etc, I'd end up being the bad guy, and her the victim.
So I texted her and told her I wasn't going to come and visit her again, that we were never close (understatement of the year), and she still had other family members and wished her well for the future (why I said that, I don't know). A few minutes before texting her, I posted back the birthday money she gave me through her letterbox with my birthday card. She thought giving money made her a good person, but wasn't there for any of her daughters emotionally.
People think I am cruel to have done things the way I did, but I honestly wouldn't have been given the time of day if I confronted her. She is not normal. I could write a book.
How did other posters go no contact? Was I cruel to have done it the way I did?
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To those who went NC with narc parents - how did you break off contact?
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Abitcomplex · 01/04/2017 12:08
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