I just came out of a long term (and very dead) relationship at the end of last year and was whisked off my feet by a handsome dude... My anxiety kicked in about this new bloke but I wanted some attention and company and I just put it down to dealing with the end of my LTR. Lots of red flags appeared (future talk and at times needy behaviour) but I thought it was my anxiety.
Last month he started to chat less to me and plan less, not being clear about when we could see each other and all of this triggered my anxiety even more! But I still thought it was me and nothing to do with his behaviour. I put the relationship on hold the other week and will finally finish it tonight. I am trying to remain strong and not make a compromise.
I was thinking that I should actually write down what I need to say so that I don't fluff it or give him an inch. I know he wants to be my friend whatever happens. I'm not sure I want to watch him date other women in the same way.
I was in a similar situation to this a while back. I met a handsome man who promised me the world, but then I started to question a lot of what he was saying. I think some people will say anything if they think it will get them what they want. It sounds like you're best to just cut him off like others have said. Wait until the right man comes along, someone honest and grounded that isn't going to string you along.
I agree, just get it done in the swiftest and least confrontational way you can.
Also write down for yourself all the reasons why. If he was a convincing future faker, he will be convincing at trying to change your mind. Keep a list of reasons to refer to as a reminder for yourself if he tries it.
Chocolate He was fairly laid back about it - said lots of nice things about me and how we had some good times (which we did). He wants to be friends but when I suggested that it might be a couple of years til that his face dropped.