so DH and I've been together for over 10 years, had our ups and downs as everyone else. At the moment our relationship is not great as we rarely see each other due to hectic work schedules and never get any time together as a couple. Stresses due to work, money, family, past mental healthiissues etc. So our relationship has suffered quite a lot over the past couple of years. So that's the background. We still care about each other, like each other's company and I think we both miss 'us', how we used to be before all these stresses.
Anyways, this year it seems like we're really both of us giving up on this marriage. For his part, he admitted to having attempted to flirt with one of his female friends online, although obviously didn't come to anything. A couple of months ago, he was on a night out with friends and another female friend had given him a kiss though DH said it was just her trying to show off to others and it was just awkward. And more recently he made a big show and dance about wanting to attend a really important trade event by himself. We had previously planned to go together as a chance to network and enjoy some time together outside of home. But now he wants to go alone. Which is fine, but I found out he had in fact booked two tickets, one for himself and one for yet another female friend. And now he's talking about maybe going to the trade even a day early to be able to "fully benefit from the chance to network" and of course it would mean he would have to stay the night.....
And for my part, I'm sad about all this but mainly for our DS because I just don't care anymore about what my DH is up to. I've got other things going on in my life, I want to build my career, achieve my goals and dreams and build a financially secure future for myself and our DS. I don't want to divorce or separate but I feel like we're both checking out of our relationship.
So my question is, is there any way that our marriage can be saved at this point? I care about him, still love him, but am not sure if it's more of a friend thing now rather than husband and wife. I just don't know. Would couples counselling help at this point? Or just give up?
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Dodoobdedoob · 31/03/2017 22:22
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