Boyfriend's friends think I'm not good enough

[mummytobemaybe]

Not sure if this is the right place.
My boyfriend has just told me that when we first got together his friends were asking what he saw in me as I'm not his usual type (I'm tall, fat and shy). Normally I would think this is fine but recently a couple of his friends have been insulting my weight to him and he hasn't been standing up for me.
I know this sounds stupid but I'm just so hurt by this especially as I consider myself more attractive than him. All my friends think I can do better (he's short for a man and overweight) but I do really like him and don't care what they say.
I know I shouldn't be bothered but I am very hurt by it. He insists he finds me attractive anyway as I'm 'not that bad' (which sounds hurtful too).
Any advice in how to deal with this? I'm feeling rather emotional.
Also all his friends are hotter than him and their girlfriends are better (makes meeting as a group hard)

[LookAtTheFlowersKerry]

I know a great way you can lose about 14 stone or more, instantly.

[Whatatododo]

God how rude. Them and him.

[LookAtTheFlowersKerry]

You'd be doing both of you a favour.

Find someone who finds you irresistible. Don't settle for someone who you find unattractive.

Also, stop putting so much emphasis on people's (yours included) looks and weight.

[Somerville]

Why does what anyone else looks like make meeting up as a group hard?

[ImperialBlether]

He's horrible and his friends are, too. I wouldn't want to be anywhere near any of them. You can do much better than this OP.

[Zebrasinpyjamas]

Does he have an agenda for telling you this now? Sounds unkind.

[inlectorecumbit]

I honestly think the friends have got it the wrong way round.
He is not good enough for you.
Dump the thoughtless idiot.

[SookiesSocks]

You deserve better.

Dump him and find somebody that has nicer friends and is not an arsehole.

[Trills]

I would not want to be friends with people who insulted their friends' weight.

You say you really like him, but his taste in friends does not reflect well on him being a particularly nice person.

[Whatatododo]

Maybe he has drawn your attention to it but you do seem to be ranking people according to how attractive they are. That is not healthy.

[LolaTheDarkdestroyer]

He is a twat. It sounds like he is saying this shit to make himself feel better? As he is short and fat himself..though you are just as bad for describing him like that!

[AttilaTheMeerkat]

I would ditch this man now along with his horrible friends. Raise your relationship bar higher and do not settle for this.

I would agree with a previous respondent's comment to you to stop putting so much emphasis on people's (yours included) looks and weight. Appearance is not the be all and end all.

[Whatatododo]

I.e. You're hotter than him, they're hotter than you.

[ohfourfoxache]

Urgh, get rid - you can do so much better

[Silverdream]

What I think is the most hurtful part is that your BF told you what his friends said. Why would he do that ? You should be questioning his motive behind that. That's hurtful , unnecessary and uncaring on his part.

[Underthemoonlight]

TBH you just admitted you think your better looking than him so do your friends and his friends think the opposite how old are you all it sounds so immature

[f83mx]

How old are you OP? This all sounds a bit... well... childish?

[user1487175389]

I wouldn't believe him. What are his motivations in conveying this 'helpful' information, do you think? Is he trying to cut you down to size to lower your self confidence? And if so, is the behaviour of a loving boyfriend?

[Kikikaakaa]

Your friends think the same as his friends do?
This is confusing
Surely he would be hurt too if he knew what you and your friends thought of him as well? Both of you think you could do better and so do all of your friends so I don't know why you are still together

It's really hard with attractiveness levels I try to avoid thinking about it. In some ways I am possibly more facially attractive than my DP but he has a better body than I do (weight and fitness) so it kind of evens itself out? prepares for onslaught

[mummytobemaybe]

Somerville: just makes me feel inadequate that's all, I have very little self esteem as it is and now I know they find me ugly

[mummytobemaybe]

I am 21 and my boyfriend is 23, sorry if you think this is childish but I think anyone of any age would be hurt by this

[KungFuPandaWorksOut16]

You've just said your friends agree your mate attractive than him. And his friends think he's more attractive than you. Where's the problem?

Yeah he could "put them in their place" but he shows he is getting a reaction, they've got something too rib him about. Or he would end up scrapping with his friends.

[KungFuPandaWorksOut16]

More attractive* not mate

[PollytheDolly]

Your not childish OP. You've just got entangled with a joyless fucknugget and his cuntish friends.

You know what to do

[SandyY2K]

Any advice in how to deal with this?

Yes. End the relationship. It will only get worse.