I am married and have three young boys (7, 5, 3). Over the last year I have become desperately in love with someone else. I tried to be in denial about this, or pretend that it could be platonic and therefore compatible with being married but it couldn't; it isn't. The other person and I agreed not to see each other and my grief about this was impossible to hide so I told my husband everything. He is very very sad, but wants us to build a new relationship, not just staying together for the sake of the children, but trying to build happiness for us. I feel I can't commit to this while I am still so in love with the other person, it would be unfair. Would it? Or should I act in hope for the sake of the children and hope that love can grow again between my husband and me? We are all feeling very broken and fragile. How much weight should the children carry here? All of it? Or is that unfair on them in the long term?
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MinkMonk80 · 31/03/2017 10:41
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