I'm wondering what opinions are on this.
Background info.
Been together 21 years and married for 18.
A couple of years ago I raised with DH that I wasn't comfortable with the sporadic contact he has with an Ex.
It transpired that early in our marriage he confided in her about us. He thought I was cheating and didn't love him. He discussed our physical relationship, which wasn't frequent at the time.
I said he needed to stop any contact with her. He said nothing was going on but he agreed (reluctantly) to not contact her and he messaged her to that effect. It took him about a week to do this which really annoyed me and started making me pull away.
Anyway I recently find she's in his FB friends list and raise it with him. He said that he'd unfollowed her and hasn't been in contact with her. I'm inclined to believe this. We have a good relationship and things have got so much better over the years
So he deletes her from FB, then I said (via text) that he needs to delete her from his phone and any other SM, because I don't want this conversation again. To this he hasn't responded.
I'm rather upset about it and don't understand why he can't just delete her number once and for all. I'm not sure he realises how when he faffs about and doesn't act instantly, it just makes me pull away from him.
We're due to go out this weekend for a special occasion and I'm wondering if it would be an overreaction to say, unless he deletes her number (and I don't actually check his phone anyway, so it would be based on trust), that I won't be going out with him.
Does anyone think I'm being unreasonable or controlling?
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What would you do_ issue with DH
Miffedmuch · 28/03/2017 10:25
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